Repressed memories. They're scary.

[ohbovva]

I'm currently in counselling after an abusive relationship. A few weeks in. Immediately felt a connection with the counsellor. He's brilliant.

He asked me a few times about my childhood, which I remembered a very small amount of. He knew there was something missing.

He has helped me over the past few weeks to unlock many repressed memories that I had entirely forgotten about. Strange things. Family friends that were inappropriate, abuse I witnessed my mum experience at the hands of her ex (not my lovely father), circumstances around a suicide of a close family friend, being at a house party at the age of 14 and a friends' older brother putting my hand down his pants then banging on the door of the bathroom trying to get in when I panicked and ran out of the room.

I had essentially forgotten all of these things, but in the process had forgotten about the rest of my childhood.

Does anyone know anything about this? Wasn't sure what board to post on but feel that this will help get traffic to my post.

I am very confused and quite shaken. These are all very real things that happened.

Can anyone help me to unpick this?

This does all sound very scary. I think you need to unpick it with the support of your counsellor, call them if you are struggling before your next appointment, they will be able to advise how you care for yourself after this shock.

Take care

@latticechaos

This does all sound very scary. I think you need to unpick it with the support of your counsellor, call them if you are struggling before your next appointment, they will be able to advise how you care for yourself after this shock.

Take care

We are working on it together. It's scary, but interesting. In a weird way, it's a relief.

I was just wondering if anyone knew anything about repression of memory and if anyone had experienced similar.

No personal experience but my brother has a lot to deal with as my dad was quite brutal with him, wmotionally, he was a horrible drunk too which made it worse. I moved away when I was 13 and being a girl I didn't get as much, dad pushed my brother to excel(which he has) but it's broken him.
He sees counsellors too which helps, but he also finds help in talking to relatives who can offer support and their own memories which helps him piece things together. We spoke a few months ago about things and he didn't realise I had a view from my perspective, and we recall specific moments in time and talk about these and what happened, which has helped him
Good luck 💕