When I was a kid, my mum has a few weird friends/relationships.
She had an abusive ex partner who I loved but was scared of. I didn't really understand. My dad dropped us home one night and I walked in the front door and saw him covered in blood, my mum terrified and the kitchen destroyed. He was sectioned then allowed back to the home. I was scared of him after this. She eventually ended it.
She had a friend who when she went out of the room, would say things like 'why don't you ever walk around in your underwear? My step daughter does, it's fine. You should try it' - I never thought of this as weird as I was a kid. I told my mum recently and she was horrified.
My mum's friend committed suicide when I was little. She was lovely but deeply unhappy. A mutual friend of her and my mum was a total weirdo and accused my parents of murder. I was aware of this when I was a kid and it deeply affected me. Nobody explained to me that she was mentally unwell. Of course my parents were never involved in this.
Thinking about this now has made me realise how weird it all was and I actually feel a bit sick. There are more incidents. But won't go in to them all.
AIBU to have been affected massively by this but not realised until now?