Who do you consider to be better looking, you or your partner?

[PhoebeAlice]

And does it affect your relationship at all?

I think my partner is completely gorgeous, but he'd say the same about me!

DH. On a normal day by a landslide. If we are going out I scrub up quite well but he can just get out of bed and be done.

Obviously I'm biased but he has been approached by modelling agents when we are out. He is classically handsome.

I was when we met but he is now 11 years later as I’ve gained weight and he’s remained lean and acquired sparkly new teeth. Doesn’t affect us

DP and no.

Me when we met. He's got better with age.

I was back in the day.

But now I think he is the more attractive one.

Hey ho.

I am definitely punching, he is smoking hot. Hes a blonde version of Troye Sivan.

He doesn’t think hes particularly physically attractive, he knows his personality etc is very attractive.

When we first met I was the better looking one. I guess I was more conventionally good looking, nice figure, dressed well etc. He was nice looking but slightly over weight, looked smart at work but dressed like a slob at the weekends. We’ve both got fatter and I think he probably has the edge now. However I don’t feel either of us as particularly attractive at this point

Dp is, by far. But looks arent something I think are particularly important. We are similar levels of kindness, bravery, IQ and political beliefs.

Me when we met, 20 years ago. Now, although I’d like to say me still, that’s simply not true, we’re much more ‘evenly matched‘

He has aged like a fine wine. I have aged like a pint of milk

he's got better with age

I agree. Same with my DH. But he's not the worrier that I am. My worries are all over my face.

He thinks I'm hot. I think he's hot, but I have a lot less easy confidence than he does...

i blame the menopause

Me.

Oh, didn’t answer the question
Has zero impact on our relationship

Frankly he’s punching!

Definitely him - still gets the eye from all ages at 70!!

When we met I think it was me, now him. Always get told how hot he is and how “lucky I am”...and that makes me feel great

Oh, and second question - has very little impact on our relationship. I believe he fancies me, I fancy him.

Does it really matter?
If your partner is with you, they love you, they want to be with you. It's more than looks, it's about personality, comparability, are they committed and respectful.
I used to wonder why my DP was with me, he is handsome in the way women do eye him up. Even at the age he is now (early 50s) he looks far younger. I also saw a picture of an old girlfriend of his who was a model and she was stunning and in the end I asked why he was with me when I'm pretty plain and I'm not slim. He laughed and said it was daft, that she was good looking yes, but she was boring, he couldn't have a proper discussion with her as she was a bit clueless and he loved me for my spark and my brain and my sense of humour. He also said I was good looking to him, he said my boobs were far better, he liked my curves and that I like to cook with him. He said when he dated her it was about looks in a male show off thing, but as you get older you want more than just a bit of fluff.

We look like Mr and Mrs potato head, so no competition here 😀

When we met I'd say we were roughly even, although at that time I thought I was hideous (alas, total waste of being young and reasonably attractive!)

He has improved over 10 years - he had s lot of good raw material (strong bones, lovely eyes)- but now he has better hair, filled out, lost his slight gawkiness, and carries himself with a lot more confidence which is sexy. Also became very stylish over time.

I on the other hand had a baby, got very fat, and haven't aged particularly well, and can't be arsed with hair and make up. And I have a lazy eye (always did) so there's that.certainly people meeting us now must think I'm punching above my weight.

DP when we met. He is still tall rugby built dark with a very handsome face but has put on a few stone 4 stone all on his stomach. He'd say I was I've more or less stayed the same physically bar naturally aging, I don't get dressed up like I use too.

My DH, 100%. He looks like a very tall Kit Harrington.
He would say me. I have very good self esteem. His is the absolute pits. That has caused us more issues than the looks. He doesn’t think he deserves me, thinks I’d be better off with someone else, self sabotages a lot. He’s working on it. Maybe if he could see what everyone else sees he’d feel better?

I say he is, he says I am. Practically though, he definitely is, a definite 8 and I’m a flexible 6 with the right angles and lighting 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

I think we're both about a 6. I'm maybe slightly better looking when I'm slim, but I'm not at the moment.

@Tingalingle

Me, till I look in a mirror . Always a surprise to realise who that hairy middle-aged woman is. He has nice hair and great legs though.

Hahaha, same here. 😁😁