Posting for a rant

[ComeOnLetsMove]

So I can calm down and not 'create a tense atmosphere' for the rest of the evening.

I don't want to write a big essay so I'll try a shorter version. DP needed me to do him a favour, a very difficult one involving heavy lifting, as he has an injury and can't do it himself. I did the favour no questions asked. He asked me, mid lift, if he could do anything to help. I said 'yes, please keep DC in the front room'. He said okay. Then he let DC run upstairs behind me. I was in the middle of lifting heavy thing, so I didn't want to also be anxious about DC getting hurt. I called out 'I asked you to please keep him in the front room!'. He told me to 'chill'.

Later when I asked why that happened, he got a bit arsey and then said it was 'no biggie'. I said to him that he didn't know why I'd asked him to keep DC in the front room, he said that not everything has to go according to the plan I have in my head. At that moment in time, I thought he was a huge dickhead. I replied 'whatever'. Since then, I've been trying to just carry on as normal but for some reason I just feel deeply annoyed.

So please help me to calm down, people of MN. There are more important things in life than focusing on petty insults.

No harm, no foul. So the kids being loose didn't result in tragedy, hence don't dwell on it.

You're not being unreasonable and the rant makes perfect sense, he is being a twat. The child could have got hurt - is there a pattern of behaviour going on here or is it a one off? Your post has a feeling of "the last straw that broke the camel's back"...

There have been a few times where I've asked for certain things to stop or change for DCs' safety and I get told I'm being too careful and worrying too much. I used to think that perhaps maybe I was, as I have form for worrying, but in recent months I've spoken to my doctor and the health visitor, who have actually told me that those things ARE bad for DC. So now I just feel angry, and sometimes I think DP is a knobjockey.