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To feel sorry for my only dc

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sunnysunshining · 10/08/2020 18:26

My only dc is completely alone. Most of her friends have gone away with their families either in or out the U.K.
We have no family and usually in the holidays she'd be at a children's club once or twice a week with me taking her to park on the other days to play with other dc and we also go away for two weeks where there's usually some kind of children's club going on or simply distractions of being on holiday suffice

This year the children's club said we could only go if we paid 5 full days upfront something I didnt think would work as I do want to spend some time with her in the holidays. We won't be going on holiday either as I'm still catching up after being furloughed.

I took her to the park yesterday and she started playing with another girl and the dad went nuts at his dd saying she knows the rules it's a shame others don't. My dd was on a swing next to the girl chatting so not exactly super close.

Since yesterday my dd has been saying she's alone and has no one to be friends with her that even at home she feels left out by me and dh because we are wfh as well but I don't work ft so I do try to play with her in the day.

I just don't know what to do except just wait it out until school starts. Dh joked yesterday we should have another but that's useless as dd 7 ! My dd is very sociable and chatty and is really suffering from being alone for so long. Is there anything I can actually do?! Am I doing enough. I feel bad for her. We live remotely on top of everything so no neighbours.
I've invited anyone I can find to come over and at the beginning of the holidays which started early July for us we did manage to get the odd person round but people are going away and then quarantining on return so I don't see us seeing too many friends now.

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Goldengirlllll · 10/08/2020 18:45

Oh bless her that’s so heartbreaking for her! Kids have already had such a rough rode this year!
Are you a member of a local Facebook group? Can you put a message asking if any parents of similar aged kids would be comfortable to have a socially distanced meet up in the park? Am sure they will be some in a similar position.
There also seems to be a lot of online classes still that maybe she might enjoy?

HaggisTheGreat · 10/08/2020 18:56

Can you do a week of holiday club, then a week with you, and alternate? So she gets the socialising but you still get time with her? Or are any other activities open where she could go for an hour or two - eg kids’ tennis and football seem to be going full on near us

ShoppingBasket · 10/08/2020 18:58

Why not pay for 5 and send her for 2 or 3?

sunnysunshining · 10/08/2020 19:46

@ShoppingBasket Im not even sure about the children's clubs now as they're in 'bubbles' and normally it's lots of siblings in similar age groups and now I'm paranoid since the park that she'll be in groups of working parents who have their siblings in the group as yesterday all the dc were staying with their siblings or the one dc she went to ply with was told to stay away so I'm wondering if she'll still be isolated by siblings who are told to only play together. Although I'm thinking the clubs would manage a lonely dc

I might have to though, tbh I didn't think to book a whole week and only do a few days though so I think that's a good idea.

She doesn't go back to school until 7th September going to be a long summer Confused

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sunnysunshining · 10/08/2020 19:53

Haven't thought of online classes will look into that. She has FaceTimes friends but it's not been the same and even that's dwindled as people are busy going out again.
Thanks. I'm not on Facebook but maybe I'll have to get myself on it and join in a bit more.
This is the first year I've had a problem with dd being alone. I'm normally putting a lot of effort into seeing other people but I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle right now and I understand that but it has been hard watching dd get so lonely.

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Budapestpest · 10/08/2020 19:56

Are all her friends away? Meeting up in a park with one who is around would be great if their parents are more relaxed than that guy

ShoppingBasket · 10/08/2020 20:00

What about gaming where she can play online with her friends and chat. As much as I hate fortnite it was a great way for my DS to stay on touch during lockdown and I think it actually helped him. I'm back to hating it now though 😂

LadyCatStark · 10/08/2020 20:02

I’d honestly book the holiday club. DS is an only child and he was really struggling until we recently moved to a cul-ds-sac full of families and now he’s a different child!

sunnysunshining · 10/08/2020 20:54

Thanks. I think holiday club the answer then. And maybe moving to a cul de sac @LadyCatStark !

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