DH is the SAHP to our toddler, I work full-time. Before having a child and when DH worked we divided chores evenly. Since then he has chosen to be a SAHP and takes care of the majority of the cooking and cleaning. If I offer to do anything, he said he prefers I keep an eye on DS so he can get on with this and that. If I do try to help, he complains I'm doing it wrong, whether it's stacking dishes or hanging up washing.
I feel bad that he has taken on so much of the mental load, looking after DS all day, as well as the cooking and cleaning - basically the complaint of so many women. There's no doubt he's tired and stressed. But I'm so peeved when he criticises me. It's not that what I do is wrong, it's just not how he likes things. AIBU to stop trying to help and leave him to it.