Would this be unreasonable?

[Mingo2010]

I made a WhatsApp group with in-laws, a few years ago. Since having dd me and mil have had a difficult relationship she in my opinion has been truly awful at times and others have said she just doesn't respect me, one of the bil partner deleted me off Facebook and said it was only for family or friends, bil also set up a WhatsApp group named " family " and left me off of it, I don't go to their family get together anymore because I just feel so awkward and feel like I don't "fit " in with them, yday they had a get together and I had said thanks for the offer but can't make it partly because I feel so awkward and can't deal with stress headaches and chest pains I get and another because they haven't seen Dd since her birthday 10 months ago they never ask how she is or bother etc ( I have always bothered with dn bil daughter ) but said they are welcome pop in on their way home if they wanted too and to let me know, my message got completely ignored ( they didn't pop in either despite passing our road ) it seems they only want to know when it suits ie - birthday Xmas etc feels like your expected to go orherwise they don't want to know. would you leave the WhatsApp group and say enoughs enough? Worried I'll look petty but also there's no reason to stay on it anymore

I'd have no trouble leaving a group when the people in it have made it blatantly obvious they don't like me.

You don't mention your husband's thoughts, are you still with him?

I would just leave the group and let your DH deal with them.
I had a very similar situation. Quite funnily my husband kicked me out of the WhatsApp group and then told his family why we didn't want to be part of it then left it himself.

Leave. You'll feel better for it. They sound like horrible bullies.

Just a thought - if MIL, BIL and another BILs partner all don't like you....could it be something you are doing?

No point being bullied.

I think it was a bit unreasonable to expect them to call in afterwards yesterday when you weren't going to the gathering. Usually if people can't come they have a good reason which means they wouldn't be able to host people directly afterwards.

He's saying id look awkward and asks if I'll ever go to family things again which at the moment I feel too out of place,
The only thing I feel I've probably done wrong is not jump when they've asked and protected my little girl when it comes to not allowing dd around their dog who can be temperamental, I've put on a lot of weight and don't even have a job let alone a career so don't really fit in the box if that makes sense

Also if I'm asked why ive left the group by then what am I supposed to say ? Xx

Also if I'm asked why ive left the group by then what am I supposed to say?

"Because I wanted to" or no response at all. Who cares what they think?

@Mingo2010

Also if I'm asked why ive left the group by then what am I supposed to say ? Xx

I didn't realise I was a part of the group!

That's a good response actually, I really thought I was being petty xx

I've left the group chat now it's taken me ages to have the guts to do it but I've done it now xx Thankyou for your replies xx