AIBU or is he? Light hearted

[GinDrinker00]

Small double bed. I’m disabled.
Every night the DH takes over the bed, sleeps diagonally, takes all the covers. Leaves his iPad in the middle of the pillows all night, I’ll move it he’ll put it back?!

I’m left sleeping on the edge all huddled up which effects my pain levels massively every single night. I’m also only sleeping two-three hours a night now.
Told him to buy a bigger bed, he says I’m being unreasonable and that I should wake him up (I do I kick him, shake him NOTHING wakes him up.) Whose being unreasonable? Or do I just smother him with a pillow till he gets the point at how angry I’m getting?

He is a prick but you already know this!

Get your own bed so you can starfish and have the bed all to your self.

If you're disabled then maybe you 'need' your own bed?
withdraw your services as wife/partner until this is sorted - use something men understand

I have thought about getting two single beds that we can put together and pull apart but he doesn’t like that idea and says that’s not really how a marriage should be even though he’s aware of how badly this is now effecting me. 🤦🏻‍♀️
I’m going to withdraw my “wife duties” though as I don’t have the energy for it with this. It was funny at first but now I’m loosing my patience.

Start waking him up then. Play an alarm clock sound on your phone to wake him up tell him to move. Every time. Every time he takes mo than half the bed, alarm. Every time his iPad migrates, alarm. Hogging the quilt, alarm. If his sleep is as affected by the situation as yours is then he'll be inclined to fix the issue.

This doesn't sound lighthearted at all. Sleep deprivation is incredibly dehabitating. If you actually can't wake him up, no matter how hard you try then move forward with the bed purchase. You don't need permission. I would be concerned if my husband had this little regard for me.

He is the one who gets the sleep and gets to call the shots about size of bed etc.

Nah, I think he is a tiny bit unreasonable. Do you have a patio? Perhaps he could sleep there (either on or below)?

Best advise, new bed else pinch his nose shut when he is annoying that will wake him up or put pillows down the middle of the bed and no more ipad.

@chargeorge

If you're disabled then maybe you 'need' your own bed? withdraw your services as wife/partner until this is sorted - use something men understand

Wow.....

I find a sharp jab in the ribs works best for my one like this but having said that we now have a super king sized bed.

It was either that or sleeping separately and the one that gets to sleep doesn’t get to call the sleep deprived in pain one unreasonable unless they have come up with a solution that actually works - which his doesn’t!

I'm disabled and my dh does this too, taking over the bed and pushes covers off on top of me then rolls on them and me! He also snores.
But we have a king sized bed and need a new mattress which is making it worse, I can't imagine suffering that on a small double.
Just order two singles from somewhere that will remove the old bed, it's for your health and he's no right to let you suffer pain and sleeplessness because he has some fantasy he is the perfect bed partner.

Buy yourself a separate or bigger bed. Why are you asking him to do it?

Sleeping in the same bed all the time is not compulsory, in fact I would go so far as to say that bed sharing is a negative of marriage for me! I love it when my DH works night shift and I can fidget as much as I like or turn the light on to read if I can't sleep. We used to have a spare room where I could escape to if I was restless but my son has it now

Do you have a spare room that you can decamp to?
Can you fit a superking in your bedroom? If so, I'd order one.

Is this a recent change or has he always been like this? Is he stressed?

Get yourself some nice new bedding while you're at it?