No gift for baby?

[ThatsNotMyCherry]

In mine and my husbands family whenever a baby is born the grandparents and siblings (i.e. aunts and uncles) always buy a gift for the newborn. We have done this every time for each of my husbands 7 nieces and nephews and they all gave something on the birth of our first but on the birth of our second child only 1 of his 3 siblings gave something. I feel a bit perplexed to be honest about why they haven’t bothered. Not expecting anything big but just feel that even a card, teddy or a bunch of flowers would have been nice?

It's a bit like that for a second baby I felt. You have everything already generally and we didn't even get visitors for no 2 either.

My second daughter also didn't receive hardly anything and my grandparents even forgot her 1st birthday this year.

I think it's quite common for the 2nd baby.

YANBU at all. That's a very poor show

Definitely have had less visits from friends and non-immediate family and that’s ok. I guess because we have made an effort for their 2nd/3rd child (didn’t get big ticket items which they already had but other bits) I thought they might do the same.

We’ve received nothing for second child. It makes me sad to think how many baby cards I have kept from my first - I’ll have to think of something to do with them so that second doesn’t ever find out that they got two, compared to twenty-odd for the first.

@OnceUponAPotato I feel exactly the same about the cards!!

Same in DH's family. Huge song and dance about dc1 but didn't do anything for.dc2.

When was the child born?

If it’s been during lockdown I think things have been a bit different. I’ve not got presents for friends children yet or met them as I’ve been in Shielding until recently and only go out for essential visits. I think a lot of people have been the same even if they aren’t as vulnerable. Income has been hit too and maybe they are scared of giving something that might be seen as paltry.

I do intend on making it up later when it’s safer to meet up! Maybe it’s the same for your family?

That is so sad. Huge family here and people have been just as excited about second children as they have first. I am due my second in November and would feel very sad if their birth wasnt acknowledged. YANBU

Dc2 and 3 got lots less gifts cards and visits than dc1, when dn 2 was born i made sure i got same as dn1 so it was fair

It’s a thing, no one bothers with the second.

I've always sent gifts for 2nd and 3rd babies?

My family were like that when I had dc3. Everyone sent messages of congratulation but hardly and cards. It upset my mum more than me!

I had baby no 3 recently. Your post made me realise we had no cards or gifts from DH's parents or his brother.

My in-laws gave nothing for the third because they didn’t think we should have had a third !

Thats bad. I got alot on both as boy then a girl. My friend has 3 got very little on 3rd. Not nice though. You can buy things cheaply now

I think a lot of times the cards and gifts are to celebrate the new experience for the parents, even though it is a baby gift. By the time the second one comes along its not a new experience for the parents.

I don't think it's meant maliciously. I'm a second child, and I can accept that while my arrival was exciting for my parents, it wasn't a first.

We got over 50 cards for our first, maybe 20 or so for second and just a handful for third!