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To be in love with the man in my dream

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nicebreeze · 09/08/2020 21:30

Having a bit of a shite time with DH and life in general at the moment. Fighting a lot, work is stressful, really unfit and out of shape, not feeling very valued or loved or happy.

I had a restless night's sleep last night (big fight with DH before bed, hot, etc) and has a dream - weird storyline, something about me having powers and people trying to catch me for testing. Anyway, in my dream was a man who looked after me. Totally not my type - think tall, skinny, blond when I always got for dark, stocky, rugged men. Also gentle, softly spoken - I tend to go for loud, funny guys. He kept me safe while we were on the run, held me at night, we obviously had sex (tho I don't specifically remember this part of my dream), I remember vaguely a couple of really tender moments we were lying in each other's arms chatting.

Anyway, in case the description about hasn't given it away; I've been thinking a lot about this man today. Found myself staring into the distance thinking about him. Is this weird? A much needed escape from reality I guess, but it's making me question my relationship. Dream Me just felt so happy, loved, in love, protected and special.

AIBU to want to run away with Dream Man? Or at least go to sleep tonight hoping I dream about him again?

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TheAquaticDuchess · 09/08/2020 21:55

Sounds like your subconscious is filling in the things you currently feel you’re missing out on - being cherished and protected, important, valued, loved, looked after etc.

I hope things improve for you soon Flowers

Sparklesocks · 09/08/2020 21:59

Yes definitely sounds like an escape - makes sense that your subconscious has created a man the opposite of your DH when you’re having problems. From the description of your dream it sounds like you’re craving the intimacy your DH isn’t providing.

Nothing wrong with a little fantasy and we all have the odd day dream. I hope you can work things through with your husband so dream man is no longer needed ❤️

BarbedBloom · 09/08/2020 22:04

Funnily enough this was how my book started. I dreamt about this perfect man and so I had to write about him

nicebreeze · 09/08/2020 22:04

The subconscious mind is a pretty incredible thing! I don't think I realised how low I was feeling until today. Thanks for the replies. I'll have a chat with DH tomorrow I think. Maybe not about my dream, but about how I'm feeling.

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nicebreeze · 09/08/2020 22:05

@BarbedBloom

Funnily enough this was how my book started. I dreamt about this perfect man and so I had to write about him
This is interesting! When I woke up and could remember more of the "plot" it actually seemed really exciting and I thought it would make an excellent book. Is yours finished?
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