To leave with my friend?

[Justalittlehope]

Long story short, my friend her abusive partner over a week ago, she came her. Shes going back into her house last week as her partner finally left as she owned the home. She knows my DH is abusive too, shes asking me if I want to come with her and get away from my DH. Should I go with her? How can I do it safely without being in danger from my DH?

OP if you're in an abusive relationship, Women's Aid can advise on the safest way to leave. Please do give them a call

Yes, leave your abusive partner asap

OP never good to stay in an abusive relationship.

@Queenofthehousehold

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WTF did I just read? 'Get over it'?

Should I leave when my friend goes back tomorrow and go with her?

If it is safe for you to do so contact women’s aid. They will be able to advise you on how to safely leave. It depends on a lot of things whether you should go to your friends or not. Is it your own home or are you renting- if so who’s name is on the tenancy. Would your dh know that you have gone to your friends, does he know her address? Would you be able to stay there long term or is this for a week? Do you have any children?

@Rose789

If it is safe for you to do so contact women’s aid. They will be able to advise you on how to safely leave. It depends on a lot of things whether you should go to your friends or not. Is it your own home or are you renting- if so who’s name is on the tenancy. Would your dh know that you have gone to your friends, does he know her address? Would you be able to stay there long term or is this for a week? Do you have any children?

We both have 1 child. She says I can stay as long as I need. DH only knows my friend is going, not where to.

Honestly OP I asked this same question over a year ago and lots of people gave me advice (well meaning) that could have landed me in a heap of danger. Women's Aid are the experts. They're truly amazing. I'm sure you'll get some good advice on here, however domestic abuse is complex and many abusers' behaviour follows a pattern. You are in most danger when you leave an abusive person.

Yes do go OP. Don't look back.

As previous posters have recommended please take some advice if safe to do so on how to leave safely as the point of leaving increases the level of risk you are at when in a controlling and abusive relationship. Womens Aid are good for non judgemental supportive advice.