Ex was asked whether I was an addict

[Blenny]

Just been to drop off DC at their dad, and he mentioned that a nosy neighbour had asked him whether I had drug problems because he has the kids during the week. I see this woman sometimes and wave at her if she's in her front garden. AIBU to be mortified? I know she is a busybody, but I still feel a bit rotten about it.

I don't have drug problems btw, in case this wasn't clear.

Well that was a big jump for the neighbour! And doesn't really make sense logically... If you had drug problems surely you'd be equally /more likely to take at weekend!

I'd feel rotten too..
I hope your ex explained?

I'd have to tell her about herself I don't think I could bite my tongue cheeky cow!

Any possibility ex made this up? If not, neighbour is not just nosey, she's odd.

I want to be angry, but I mostly just feel dejected. People have made low-key insults or snide comments about me being a bad mother before, but not like this. I don't even look like an addict? Or at least I hope not.

Ex was a bit dumbfounded by the conversation and didn't know what to say. Apparently she wondered what DC thought of only seeing their mum at the weekends and whether there were any reasons (like addiction), that meant that I couldn't have them more. To be honest, if someone would have asked me that about him I would also be caught out. It's not a question you expect to be asked I hope.

One addict can look different to the next but what an odd assumption! I'd have to, HAVE to! Quiz her about it. I would.

Crikey. I hope your ex told her to mind her own business!

It's none of her business!

In her shoes, I might wonder why, but never ask. I think the possible reasons I'd come up with for it would be dad lives In a better school catchment area, or works mainly from home or something,. Practical stuff.

Cheeky fucker... no way would she have said that if it was a dad having his kids at weekend. Silly woman. Move on and give her 🤨

It annoys me that single mums should automatically have the DCs during the week and dads get them at the weekends. I get it is more unusual but I wouldn’t jump to drugs straight away there could be a million reasons like there are a million reasons some dads see their kids once a month.

She's a dickhead! She was probably angling for some gossip, hence the ridiculousness of her question. She's not worth your time or energy. Just full on ignore her!

Maybe she has a drug problem. Why would it be so top of her mind.

Don't be questioning whether it's anything to do with looks, you said yourself that she asked because he has the kids during the week. I'd be wondering if she was on drugs to make such an odd connection.

I'd knock on her door and tell her in no uncertain terms. You are not and if she has any questions in future before making assumptions and asking other people to ask you directly.
That should put her in her place. X

I don’t think she did ask.
I also think that if your ex was a decent man he wouldn’t have mentioned it to you.

I think he’s a nob and knew it would hurt you.