to think that a married couple shouldn’t spend every night apart

[bakedoff]

AIBU? I spend every night alone. I’ve been married for a decade. I’m not yet 50 and my husband “likes his own space”. I’m lonely. I feel rejected. Tonight I tried to get him to stay in bed with me and he called me “needy”. When I said it’s not needy to want attention and affection from my husband he then called me “argumentative”. It’s a shit nothing life. Is it unreasonable to want to spend night time with my husband!!!

Why are you with him ie what are you actually getting from the marriage? He sounds v cold.

"To stay in bed with me" does that mean that he'd been in bed with you I.e. sex and then left you afterward?
No, you're not unreasonable to want love, attention and your needs to be met. What do you gain from the relationship?

Yanbu OP. Have you got any friends to meet up with?

I quite like to do my own thing on an evening but if you feel lonely you should agree a compromise. You certainly dont sound needy from what you've said.

A married couple shouldn't do things that leaves one partner unhappy. Some couples are genuinely happier sleeping in separate bedrooms, and that is fine, as long as both are happy. Not paying attention to your unhappiness is not fine.

@bakedoff

AIBU? I spend every night alone. I’ve been married for a decade. I’m not yet 50 and my husband “likes his own space”. I’m lonely. I feel rejected. Tonight I tried to get him to stay in bed with me and he called me “needy”. When I said it’s not needy to want attention and affection from my husband he then called me “argumentative”. It’s a shit nothing life. Is it unreasonable to want to spend night time with my husband!!!

Ok.. a few facts might help. How old is he, and how long has this been going on. Do you still have sex and if so how do go about it - I mean does he visit your bed? What is he like the rest of the time ?