To be frustrated about my "early bird" neighbour?

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So every day during the week I get woken up at 6am by them doing some loud clean up of the garden, including launching glass bottles into the recycling and slamming about (I usually get up for work at 7 so it's only an hour and I don't moan about that to anyone but my partner haha). Now today they decided to cut the grass at half 7 in the morning! I just want a little bit of a lie in, I'm 30 weeks pregnant and my sleep is atrocious through the night now, it my day off....and now no lie in. So aibu?

I think people have different ideas of what is an acceptable time to start making noise. Where I live it's quite normal for neighbours to be doing yard work and mowing their lawns at 7am on a Saturday. The sun rises early here all year round and people spend most of their time outside as it's always warm and sunny. If my neighbour asked me not to mow my lawn at 7am on Saturday because I'd woken then up I would honestly be surprised that they were still in bed and think they were a bit lazy and entitled. (And yes I'm aware some people work shifts, my DH does too, and if he sleeps at odd times he uses earplugs).

I would be careful about rocking the boat in a new area - your other neighbours may or may not agree that it's too early to make noise. I would try and get a feel for that before complaining about it.

I think people have different ideas of what is an acceptable time to start making noise. Where I live it's quite normal for neighbours to be doing yard work and mowing their lawns at 7am on a Saturday

Sounds like WA in the summer. Everybody gets up early to get stuff done in the cool and because it gets dark early too.

Every night at least one of them is up at 1am turning lights on that shine into my room

Their other behaviour sounds annoying but surely this is your job to fix with better curtains rather than expecting them to have a curfew on when they use lights in their own home?

@Iloveyoutothefridgeandback lazy and entitled for being in bed past 7am? Oh wow. I mean I definitely can be lazy when I want to be (especially at the minute with the exhaustion and heat) but I'm certainly not entitled for doing what I want to with my day off.

And I won't be rocking the boat, as per my last reply I'm not planning on knocking on and complaining as I will no doubt have a crying baby annoying them soon.

It's annoying but you'll be getting your own back in a couple of months with baby so I'd leave it. Otherwise they are going to complain about baby noise

If you live in the UK it will be hot for a few days if we are lucky. Mowing of grass can wait

I'm in bed now, feeling very last and entitled. 🙄😂

I'd have had to have said something about 7.30am lawn mowing and I'm usually pretty laid back about neighbour noise. Totally unreasonable.

They are rude, inconsiderate and anti social.

@Hardbackwriter it's a new build and the window in my room that faces that side does have a blackout curtain on it but because it is an outside flood-light it doesn't cut the mustard.

The law is no noise before 7am. The thresholds for that time are very low

www.gov.uk/guidance/noise-nuisances-how-councils-deal-with-complaints

(Rustling leaves are about 20 dB)

After 10 am at weekends and after 9 am on weekdays is the polite norm for considerate neighbours.

If my neighbour asked me not to mow my lawn at 7am on Saturday because I'd woken then up I would honestly be surprised that they were still in bed and think they were a bit lazy and entitled

Really? How does someone sleeping at 7am make them lazy and entitled? The only entitled person in this scenario is the inconsiderate neighbours lawn mowing at 7 am!

Came here to say YABU cos I have a neighbour that complains about our early rising but YANBU tbh, using mowers and smashing bottles is another level of inconsiderate

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Between 7 and 11 they can do what they want

I absolutely hate this attitude. Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should. Think about other people - not just jump straight to the stance of I’m allowed so I’ll do what I like.

My neighbours are like this, at 5am every day we’re woken by banging doors/kitchen cupboards/hoovering/dog barking it’s unbearable so I know how you feel. On the odd occasion they wake later we’re still woken by them somehow, it really does begin to affect your mental health when you lose sleep because of others. If you’re on friendly terms talk to them about it or keep a diary to report a noise disturbance. It’s selfish and inconsiderate to not consider your neighbours, if people want to make noise constantly they should be the ones to live in the middle of nowhere.

Some councils will write to noisy people saying there’s been complaints. You would remain anonymous to them. It might inspire them to be more considerate generally?

Or have a polite word with them.

Or get earplugs. I found the silicone ones are the most comfortable.

I would be careful about rocking the boat in a new area

I wish our new neighbours paid heed to this. They moved in yesterday and decided to clean their balcony which overhangs our garden, dumping a load of dirty water all over our brand new grey sofa Once it gets to a more reasonable hour I’ll be paying them a visit this morning

Talk to them?

About every two weeks my neighbours mow their lawn. If it's during the week and on a Saturday it's at 7am. On a Sunday they wait until 8am. It's sad that I notice this but everytime it always seems to coincide to a morning that my children sleep late or my OH let's me have a lie in, so it's hard to not. It pisses me right off. So IMO you are not being unreasonable.

One of my neighbours started such behaviour. That's because he had enough of another neighbour kids' constant noise, screaming, shouting, fighting all day long. He asked them to keep the noise down and was told to get lost and that the kids were entitled to enjoy their garden as they wish.

So he started the early noise to give them a bit of their own medicine and sure enough, the family complained.

We're stuck in between and disturbed by both although up early, but I understand why they did it, I was tempted to do the same myself!

They're also new neighbours and they have pissed off all the surrounding neighbours with this and other things, like shining their incredibly bright security lights into everyone's houses 24/7, letting their dog outside at all hours to bark, and building a massive outbuilding overshadowing other gardens. I'm not sure if we would have given them more slack if they'd been here a while... If anybody complains to them they just say they're not changing the way they live for anyone else. And so we all hate them.

Enjoy your lie-ins.
Because in a few months time you're going to be up waaaay before 6am and your neighbours are going to be quietly seething about being woken up by a screaming baby at all hours.

I know babies can't help it- but it's excruciating to live next door to one, no matter how well you get on.

If you want to fall out with the neighbour check your local by-laws but I don't think mowing the lawn comes under the heavy work stuff that generally can't be started before 7 or 7.30.

@Turnedouttoes, now you are definitely NOT being unreasonable!

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Do you have a sofa in your garden?! That sounds like my dream...!

So he started the early noise to give them a bit of their own medicine and sure enough, the family complained.
What did they say when he told them why he was doing it?