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Would it be kinder to leave?

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JaJaDingDong1 · 08/08/2020 05:36

Name changed for this.

I have significant mental health problems. I have two amazing kids, and a fantastic husband. My extended family are also brilliant and I am in that regard so so lucky.

However, I feel a massive burden on my husband and kids. I can’t leave my home due to my mental health, I get terrified something horrible is going to happen. So I find it safer to stay at home. But I feel my husband and kids could have such a more fulfilled and exciting life if I left, I feel I’m holding them back.

My kids are so funny and gentle and kind, as is my husband. I have been so incredibly tired lately that I struggle to get through a day without napping!! And this is obviously a massive burden on my husband who is working from home and then having to deal with the children because I’m so tired all the time. He is so kind and supportive however I just feel he deserves more. I just don’t know what to do? I love them all so incredibly much but I just feel they would have a much better life without me dragging them down. I’ve been to therapy and on lots of meds but it’s deep rooted in my brain and hard to reprogram. Eugh I feel I am just rambling and not sure what I’m looking for from this post. Just maybe some words of mumsnet wisdom Smile

OP posts:
Charleyhorses · 08/08/2020 08:12

You must be doing something right to have such a lovely husband and be raising lovely kids!
Better off without you. Of course not. Can you imagine if one of your children said you'd be better off without them? What would your reaction be?
Would life be better without this illness? Yes. It would. But that's what it is. Focus on making the best of the resources you have. Is it the drugs that are making you tired/sleepy?

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