To enjoy the company of my friends' DH's more than the actual friends

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I know I am and I suppose the DHs are friends as much as their wives are but this is a friendship grouo that was established when DC (now teens) were very young and we were all SAHMs. Most of the women never went back to their careers and conversation seems to resolve around gossip, hair and nails, home furnishing. With the men, whilst we don't alway agree, we have debate about politics and real issues.

I know it's horribly sexist but whilst I enjoy the friendship this group has brought over thatblasy 2 decades, it's the men I turn to for intellectual stimulation.

I don’t think this is bad it’s just shared interests? I like football and can hold my own in conversations with my DH’s mates about this, when their wives are talking about Mrs Hinch and the best disinfectants.

If their conversation topic is more to your liking and you spend time together as a group then I dont see why they arent youe friends too really.

But if you really are classifying them as your friends husbands then you need better friends. There are plenty of women who can talk politics if thats your thing, its presumably more you dont have much in common with your female friends anymore and nothing to do with getting on with your friends husbands