this isnt a one woman pity party. But genuinely aibu

[ScarfAndGlassesgirl]

I have been with my current employer 6 years in a number of roles and am now fairly senior.
In that time I had a baby and a milestone birthday and now am leaving in a week and know I wont get so much as a card

I don't think im unliked. I have colleagues who are genuinely sad that I am leaving and who have invited me to social events outside work eg weddings christenings birthdays and even home bbqs!

Its not a culture thing as a colleague had a big bday (a decade above my own) and we chipped in for a communal gift. This was 2 months before my own but I never got a card?

I give colleagues birthday cards and have organised leaving cards and birthday gifts for groups
I manage a team of 6 and at christmas one of them said "i was in charge of your Christmas gift but not had a chance so were going to do it in the new year..." and nothing!
So AIBU to think I should have had some form of personal token after and during 6 years

YANBU. Your colleagues sound shit. Try not to see it as a reflection on you, though! It really isn't.

Yanbu, but I suspect it really doesn't mean they don't like you, maybe just don't like the whole collection drama.

Isn’t it a hierarchy thing? Often you don’t get card/collection for your boss, in my experience. Are you expecting the 6 you manage to chip in? Or are there colleagues at a similar level?

YANBU, I'd feel a little hurt too tbh. Hopefully you'll have better colleagues soon❤️

I had this OP. New I was well liked as everyone said so, social events outside, have kept in touch etc

But after 7 years I got a shit, cheap present paid for by the org (I must have chipped hundreds into collections over the years)

Sadly the person who organises the gifts for everyone else tends to get shit gifts or no gifts in my experience

Sadly the person who organises the gifts for everyone else tends to get shit gifts or no gifts in my experience
This.
YANBU, but the simple truth is that they probably suck at organising gifts.

YANBU but you've had your answer - you're the gift organiser, so when it's your turn, it will be left in the hands of the less thoughtful.

I've been there and it does sting somewhat.

If you’ve had a baby and a milestone birthday, I think it’s likely that you were 30?
I don’t think 30 is a milestone birthday, particularly 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s a decade, but not a “thing” the way 40 and 50 are. I’ve had all 3, and I’m not a milestone birthday type person anyway - but definitely weekends away / bigger than average parties from both friends and colleagues have been 40/50 not 30.

It just sounds like cards are not a big thing at your work. That some people are into them (you!) do they happen sometime - but it isn’t culturally a cards place, so you’re not being specifically left out.

Personally I’ve worked in a place with constant collections and I hated it! Give me a genuine spoken, “good luck, I’ll miss you!” over a card that half the signatories don’t really care about any day!