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Aibu to lessen support to my difficult DM

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whatisforteamum · 07/08/2020 10:03

My DM is in her late 70s and widowed.All lockdown dh and myself picked up her shopping as we I've in the same town and previously dh had been popping her to the garden centre and local shops while I was working.
I have 4 siblings who have all got one with their lives without helping too much as she is so demanding and entitled.
Example she asked my nephew to do her gardening for cash and he didn't respond.D M didn't bother with him as a child or my dcs much yet she constantly mentions that he won't help her!.
Dh and I did some gardening and she was a bit rude and sarcastic.as.to where she wanted the plants.I can see why the other gardeners she had left.her.
DM also mentioned furlough needed to end in June as people needed to get back to work.I work in a pub that was closed obviously.Keeping on how taxpayers.we're paying for it even though She never went out to work herself.
She is also a dreadful snob and constantly mentions how my niece gets discount on Wait rose when she gets her shopping.She was really annoyed a shop didn't have a garden fork in store as she wanted it now!
She is my DM but how much or little help should I give her? Even dh who has done loads for her has stopped jumping to her tune.Help!
She even tried to get herself off the shielded list which was for her own benefit.

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VanGoghsDog · 07/08/2020 10:08

She doesn't need to get herself "off the shielding list", it's only advice, not law.
But you can ignore this behaviour as it doesn't really impact you.

My mum is similar. I just do the bare minimum. Neither of my siblings are any use. Luckily mine lives three hours away so it's easy not to see her much, but when I do it's for three days which makes it more wearing!

whatisforteamum · 07/08/2020 10:26

My siblings think she has created all of our M H issues.I dont.I do feel responsible for her though.😢

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