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My dog and my neighbour’s dog

59 replies

Springersrock · 07/08/2020 09:54

The neighbour behind us has a dog that barks all the bloody time. I think it has a dog flap or they keep their doors open or something as it’s in and out of the garden all day/evening and they just ignore/can’t hear the barking

It seems to completely detest my dog, as soon as she goes out into our garden, it’s barking and hurling itself at the fence between our gardens.

I know that some of the other neighbours on our road and the road behind have complained about the barking to the neighbour but the neighbour just blames it on my dog winding it up. The other neighbours come and see me, every time I point out that it’s not my dog barking and that she is allowed out in our own garden, they agree with me but moan that the barking is pissing everyone off (I know, it pisses me off too!) and that I need to work with her to find a solution

Our dog usually goes to work with DH, but during lockdown I was on furlough so she was home with me, the weather was nice so we were doing stuff in the garden, had doors open and our dog was outside with us so the dog was just barking on and off all day.

Neighbour behind was working from home and kept complaining to me that I should keep my dog in as it made hers bark and she was trying to work and couldn’t concentrate.

Anyway, it came to a bit of a head this morning. I let my dog out in our garden for a wee at 7:30am, she got the zoomies (as she does every morning), and was doing laps of our garden at 100 miles an hour.

She wasn’t barking (she very rarely barks) or banging and crashing around or anything like that, but wasn’t completely silent. Neighbour’s dog starts barking its head off and hurling itself at the fence, so I called mine in.

Just as we’re leaving for work, the neighbour appears and starts complaining, that if my dog can’t stop winding hers up we need to keep it in, that she’s fed up with the other neighbours complaining at her when there’s nothing she can do if ours keeps making hers bark.

I pointed out that my dog isn’t barking or making unreasonable noise, she is simply going about her business in her own back garden, that there was no way I was going to ban my own dog from our garden so we needed to come up with a more reasonable solution.

She completely blew her top, started shouting and screaming, threatened to report us to the council and all sorts, wouldn’t even entertain the idea that our dog was allowed in its own bloody garden, so we’re no closer to finding a solution and I have no idea what to suggest.

It doesn’t matter what time we let our dog out, as theirs is always out so we can’t even let her out at certain times to avoid it - and why bloody should we anyway? It’s not our dog that’s barking. I mean I’m happy to try and work with her, but never letting my dog out is not an option

Would the council actually expect me to?

OP posts:
PrayingandHoping · 07/08/2020 14:26

She's a loon!

I have 2 dogs as do most of the neighbours on our row! Sometimes they wind each other's up. It's life. The person with the dog that's barking has to deal with it!!

Sometimes if my boys are having a chasing game it will set my neighbours off. He gets a bollocking for it!! I do usually shout over (we are on v friendly terms!) sorry, my guys set him off! But that's not me excusing their dog! It happens once in a blue moon.... if it was an actual issue I wouldn't be saying a word! It's more to let them know why their dog is being noisey!

One of mine doesn't bark, the other shouts at people walking along back fence and birds. He gets told off and if he doesn't shut up he gets brought in.... in her world I should ban people walking along the green and what.... shoot all the birds?? Ha ha! It's my dog, my responsibility to keep him quiet! Not the surroundings not to set him off!!

Soubriquet · 07/08/2020 14:31

Squirt the dog with water everytime it barks

Report her to the council

HeckyPeck · 07/08/2020 14:44

YANBU!

If your other neighbours ask you to work with her or complain to you again point out that her dog barks all day even when yours isn’t in the garden/home so it won’t help and that you tried to talk to her but she shouted and screamed in your face.

NoemiaElara · 07/08/2020 15:21

I wouldn't be arranging a dog date with a dog that barks at my dog all the time OP. Don't entertain any ideas that your neighbours have about that or about 'working with her'. Your dog isn't the problem. Hers is. SHE needs to work with HER dog to sort it out.

Deardonkey · 07/08/2020 15:33

It’s really not your problem, your neighbour needs to train her dog to stop it barking.

Hoppinggreen · 07/08/2020 15:33

Your neighbour is nuts
I met someone in the woods at the back of our house the other day with 2 dogs. They ran around my dog barking while he just sat and looked at them. The owner asked if we live nearby, when I said yes and pointed to our house he said “ so it’s YOUR dog that sets mine off all the time”
Don’t think so mate

SlothMama · 07/08/2020 16:23

It's her issue not yours, the dog is clearly not properly mentally stimulated. I have this problem with my neighbour that decided to get 2 puppies (very active breed) and they bark constantly, if mine is outside they run out to bark at them.

Honestly if they say anything point out to them that they can train them to stop barking.

Gobbycop · 07/08/2020 16:35

Why is this your problem, it's their dog being the dickhead.

Carry on as you are.

MumsyMumIAmNot · 07/08/2020 16:40

Report her and her dog! Your poor dog.

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