Ok so let’s just say I know I’m being unreasonable but it just fills me with a bit of rage.
Me and DP have been together 4 yr. during which time we have hosted (DP used to live in a one bed apartment) any number of get together type things: his birthday, mine, BBQ, summer drinks, Halloween, Christmas, his parents’ anniversary, various achievements (work and personal) type stuff at my house, so he can invite his family / friends and I can do the same. He has several siblings. One, in particular, although they live the closest, has never ever come to anything they've been invited to. And it's a lot. Never. Ever. Never set foot in my house.
We are just about to move in to a new house and join our households together - very exciting. I have some spare furniture.
Suddenly “ghost like apparition” (not remotely interested for past over four years DP sibling) has appeared on WhatsApp, asking for (free) various odds and ends (sofa, chest of drawers, wardrobe, kitchen items etc etc) which I’m selling for minimal value on local sites.
DP more than relaxed in saying his sibling can have them. For free. I’m less than relaxed about this sort of behaviour. AIBU to say no? And pass it on to people who will actually say hello to me in the street, and give me a fiver for the piggy bank?