To ask what/how much you take if visiting a friend?

[Merryoldgoat]

I’ve been brought up (like most people) to never go visiting with my ‘arms swinging’ but I’m never sure if daytime etiquette.

Evening I take a minimum of wine, sometimes flowers and food type treats too depending on what’s going on.

But I’m never sure daytime.

A friend has invited me for coffee tomorrow morning. I’ve made her baby grandson A blanket as a gift which I’ll take (they are very nice blankets - people pay money for them - not tat).

Is that enough? Flowers too? Or something else?

I regularly (pre covid) used to not bring anything, then heard a conversation between ds and dsil saying they'd never at least not bring muffins/cake/bottle of wine and I realised I'd never brought people anything. So now, french fancies or muffins are my thing, and if theres kids bubbles/buttons or a magazine (but I have years to make up for). I like that phrase, the arms swinging thing!

I never bring anything round to a friends house. Acquaintances yes but my friends and I are close. We don't bother with the 'polite' pretence and would rather not have another box of chocolates we will never eat.

We always tended to bring cake or biscuits. What you have is more than enough.

You sound lovely. The blanket is more than enough.

Evening wine, possibly dessert (planned with host) daytime nothing usually as it's a case of sharing hosting over the year. Occasionally we do bring and share lunches with a larger group (again planned)