Paying the bills

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Hi all looking for some advice my partner earns around 1000 to 1500 a month and i get 660 a month.

Im in temporary accommodation and on benefits as ive got a 4 month old so im unable to work rn and me and my partner have been off and on where he has left for a few days to a week.

So now hes living with me and wants me to continue paying for everything that our daughter needs and half the bills. I am feeling like he should pay for the bills and groceries and i should pay for everything for my daughter.

Just wanted some insight into others opinions.

Is it his baby?
He should be paying towards bills yes. But if he is the dad then he should also be providing for the baby too!

Yes it is so far weve been half on everything and ive been paying for everything our daughters needs.

So you think he should pay all of the bills? What will that leave him??

Is he wanting you to continue to claim benefits?

Well i dont want to stop right now as we're not in the best place im hoping to start working soon. All of the bills will be a quarter of what he earns.

"All of the bills will be a quarter of what he earns."

Really? A quarter of £1000 - £1500 is £250 - £375, you must live somewhere very cheap! My monthly bill for council tax alone is in that range! What bills are we taking here? Rent, council tax, gas, electricity, water, internet, phone contract, food etc. Surely your rent is more than £375 a month?

Anyway, I'd say split all household bills and costs for your daughter between the two of you proportionally based on your income, maybe 1/3rd for you, and 2/3rds for him.

Split the bills proportionally to your income levels. Especially where kids are concerned, you should both be contributing.

If he paid everything he would be left with less than you.

Im in temporary accommodation so my housing benefit goes directly to them i dont really know how much because im new on benefits no council tax just gas electric WiFi and water bill

So the £660 is mostly disposable income? I'd probably say go halves then, because your rent and council tax is already taken care of. Will him moving in not effect how much in benefits you're entitled to?

Have you update the benefits office that he is living with you. If not and you get reported you will be in a much worse situation having to pay back the benefits you have been over paid.

Yes it will i wont find out how though yet for another few weeks

Tbh if your relationship is on and off and he's left you for a few days/week before, then is it the right idea to have him officially move in yet? Also why is he happy to pay half the bills, but expects you to pay for everything that your daughter needs? She's his daughter too, why shouldn't he contribute towards her? He should want to surely.

Sorry to sound harsh OP, but with a 4 month old baby I'd put yourself and her first and make sure you won't be in a worse financial position for having him there. Your benefits will probably be significantly effected if he moves in. You can still carry on working on your relationship without officially living together, but at least you'll be a bit more secure knowing you don't have to financially depend on him.

You may well find that you will loose most of your benefits.

You can check on this website how him moving in will affect your benefits OP:

www.entitledto.co.uk/