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AIBU To just give in to abusive ex?

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carsforlife · 04/08/2020 09:03

To caution you to pick the father of your children wisely? And to suggest that courts are biased towards men?

I've been fighting my ex now on and off in court for six years, my boys are really young still. Last week, despite having a huge raft of evidence of abuse towards them, I got told in court that my concerns weren't enough and they would consider his additional visitation request. I've got video recordings, evidences of admittance. Drunk driving arrests, proof of his alcoholism.... it's still not enough.

I just want to protect my boys. They've seen so much already, but nearly a week on, I'm still not over the devastation of it. My solicitors horrified by the result of the last hearing, says that legally their findings make no sense but that an appeal won't go in my favour because they very rarely do in family courts, even though they should in this case.

I feel like just giving up. He has complete control over my life. And I'll never be able to beat him.

I do know I am BU really to even think about giving up the fight to protect my kids. But how am I supposed to carry on?

Courts do not protect women and children, which is why I'm begging anyone having doubts about their partner to not have children with them. You'll never get rid of the guilt of exposing them to their abuse.

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