To find my trampolining adult neighbour annoying AF

[GlummyMcGlummerson]

My neighbours are lovely and we get on well but the dad is like a (very loud) big kid and spends his days in the garden with his kids whooping, shouting "weeeeee, whoooopeeee, waaaaaaay, wooooooow" obviously chasing them round the garden or something and being very loud about it (this is all day). I don't actually mind this, it's nice to hear a dad have fun with his kids. In fact I'm quite envious, my ex always barked at the kids to leave him alone to relax whenever he was in the garden with them. I only mention this is just to paint a picture of my neighbour's personality.

Last week they got a trampoline and have put it on the highest point in the garden, meaning when they bounce I can see the tops of the kids' heads. But when Obnoxiously Loud Neighbour (OLN) bounces on it I can see the whole upper half of his body over the fence. The kids have been on it maybe once a day. He's on it about six times a day! I was sunbathing today and then saw OLN out the corner of my eye bouncing (alone) and saying "whooppeeeee" and then he looked my way, waved and said "Hi Glummy, catching something rays are we?".

AIBU to find this quite unneighbourly? I'm happy that he's such a happy chap but for the love of god you're an adult stop playing with kids toys!

@JuniperFather

YABU. I cannot for the life of me understand why so many posters on AIBU seem to hold pretensions of demanding the privacy that's commensurate with a detached dozen-acre farmhouse in Wiltshire, when the reality is...well, not that.

Yes i can see how that would annoy. But you're going to have to talk to him directly about it. It sounds like he's deliberately trying to catch your eye to be frank. Do you think he's perhaps trying to make a pass at you?

When you live in a built up area you should be more considerate that your actions have a bearing on other people, if you are that noisy neighbour, you should be the one to move to the “detached dozen acres” house in Wiltshire and leave everyone else in suburban peace.

That would annoy me too. Sounds like an attention seeker.

I also think most of the time (in my annoying ndn scenario anyway) the type of people that do these tea try things are quite immature and selfish. I am constantly worrying about being a nuisance to others and I’m very self aware of my actions could affect others. The type of people most people find annoying lack any kind of empathy.

Apologies for the typos

"Hi Glummy, catching something rays are we?".

He sounds great, better than a lot of the neighbours you hear about on here.

I have an image of Will Ferrell in my head 😄

@Toni42

Omg! Do we have the same neighbour? I just posted about them and I intensely dislike the father. I obviously couldn’t include all details as I always get anxiety about being identifiable but he does this too! Been doing this for quite a number of years so not your neighbour. What I’ve done is put my chair do my back is towards them. I ignore him when he talks to me. So bloody annoying. I put up with it for years but since lockdown I’m scaring myself of how much anger they are creating in me. His bloody laugh annoys me. I could put up with it was a couple of times a day but they practically live in their garden.

You're not in Yorkshire are you Toni?!

No glummy not Yorkshire lol! I feel like I’m going crazy. I’m sad here seething about how much I hate that guy. I know it’s not normal and I need to see funny side. It’s annoying though! Remember what I said and move your chair tomorrow!

*sat

Think Ned Flanders on speed.

🤣 Oh dear!

I think I may be like your neighbour.. kind of .
Our neighbours put up an 8ft fence.
helps as they have a lot of noisy Bbqs

Ned Flanders on speed, proper lol!

I get it's annoying, but they're entitled to use their garden as much as you are.
As long as it's not really early/late, I'd just try and block it out.

What I’ve done is put my chair do my back is towards them. I ignore him when he talks to me

This is so rude.

I'd have to wait until he appears over the fence, and then hold up number scores like they do on Strictly.

@TinkersTailor

This is so rude.

No it’s not, he’s a peeping tom that has been looking into my home for years. He’s creepy and stands on a chair to talk to me as we erected a taller fence so can’t just lean on it. I have a right to privacy in my own garden. I’m not there to provide entertainment to him

@Toni42 Him being a peeping tom obviously changes things.

I thought you were in the same situation as OP, ignoring him just for talking to you.

Can you take a knife and shred the trampoline in the middle of the night?
No, don't do that, too obvious!
Just lightly score the bouncy bit underneath
It will give and tear as he bounces, then falls through and does himself an injury.

No problem tinker tailor. I’m at my wits end with them. I feel I have zero privacy. Goodluck OP I hope you find some peace n quiet in your garden!

Is it rude to ignore someone who's invading your private space? I am so introverted, I have to really gear myself up to talk to people and be in the right frame of mind. I never used to use my garden at all when we had a low fence as I just didn't know when the neighbours would expect a conversation. Why don't I have as much right to enjoy my garden as everyone else?

I think my dh would be like that. Thank god we don't have trampoline.

@thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter

Is this your neighbour?

I was reading this and all I kept thinking was how jealous I am that you live next to a real life Phil Dunphy 😂

Maybe you’re my neighbour, I have a family a few doors down who do this and the dad can see straight in through my kitchen when he’s on the trampoline. He doesn’t even hide the fact he’s clearly watching us! Either stick your finger up, stare or flash him I say it’s very annoying, a grown man should understand privacy

It’s a bit stupid to have pp saying ‘Oh, you need to live in an isolated area with no neighbours and a bajillion acres’. Sure, ok, I’ll just go rob a bank! How about neighbours have some bloody consideration and stop annoying their neighbours? That might work!

I should have imagined that one of the benefits guaranteed to all British subjects is the right not to have to live next to grown men shouting "whoopee," but alas, Mumsnet has shattered my illusions once again.

I have visions of a human jack-in-a-box! Maybe think that next time he springs up, might amuse you? (or is that just me? )

Like others on here, I now have grim neighbours now so at least be thankful he's not properly anti-social and hopefully the rain will soon put a stop to his bouncing. And look into some trellis and climbing plants maybe?