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I borrowed Dh phone today to google something and he's been searching "girls licking each others nipples"

I feel a bit sickened. We haven't had sex for weeks because he's not interested and I have gained some lockdown weight and feeling very self conscious.

Aibu? Not sure how to react

Sorry I should add I have name changed for this I am a regular

I'd be upset too. I know guys like porn but he could delete it from the search atleast.

He googled "girls licking each others nipples"?! Christ, I bet the dirty talk is insane with him.

It's not nice but most men probably do watch porn. Be grateful it's something that would just make granny blush rather than cause her to keel over.

TBH you were using his phone and looked at his history (as unless you started to google 'girls licking' it wouldn't come up as a recent search)

I would just ask him about it, I am pretty blunt so maybe take my advice with a pinch of salt but I would simply say I have seen you have been searching for x, care to share why this has been on your mind lately when not being bothered to be intimate with me?

Hmmm honestly it could be worse.

I know it’s not nice but it’s quite tame in porn teens really.

Have a chat with him

No when I pressed into google to type it bought up all his searches in fact that was at the top!

I guess it's just because he's not been interested in me for ages. Makes me think he must be going off me

Lick a girls nipple? Might garner his interest??

Ha yeah maybe that's what he wants! Ugh.. we've been together 7 years and I'm always using his phone to google stuff as ds is always using mine.. this is the first time I have seen anything like this. And he tried to deny it!

I would cringe but it wouldn't really bothering me IF we had an active sex life. But as you don't, yes it would upset me. More so the fact that he obviously still has the urges, he's just not displaying that to you. So I think you should discuss with him.

Try to think of this as a separate issue to not paying you much attention OP. Instead, be pleased he still has a libido and try to find a way to re-ignite the spark if you can.
He has probably always watched porn, whatever you might hear on Mumsnet, most men do, he probably is just usually more careful with his search history.
Practice some self care so you feel sexy, not for him, but for you. Don’t let it get you down too much, onwards and upwards to hopefully improving your relationship. Good luck!

Do you have a 12 year old boy around who could’ve possibly been using his Dad’s phone?! That is an odd search term for an adult man.

Get comfy on the sofa next to him, get one of your baps out and give it a clean OP - in all seriousness though come on, it's porn, he's human - maybe he's not in the mood for sex for a reason, not necessarily anything to do with you - tiredness, low mood, low self-esteem.... etc.
Get in on it with him you might end up having a good time together.

An adult using that search term? Sounds like how a child would phrase it.

Doesn't he know to search incognito?

Maybe ask him if he'd like to lick your nipples, or you to lick his. Or whether you should invite a friend while he watches? Or mention what kind of porn you like looking for (make it up if need be, whatever takes your fancy)

Seriously, I can understand you feel hurt and insecure, but if your sex life is hitting a rough spot, this could be a conversation starter to rekindle his interest (and reboot your confidence)

I mean it’s fairly innocent(ish) really. This is why you never check someone’s search history though.

(by the way, your boobs probably look fuller with the lockdown weight gain... So don't let this hold you back! It's very possible lack of sex is more due to lockdown stress...)

Yeah I wouldn't be happy with this and I'm not overly impressed by the blasé responses on this thread. Porn apologists and the poor menz with their uncontrollable urges. He'd rather Google strangers performing sex acts, get god only knows what results, all the while ignoring his partner and making her feel unattractive.

Just because it's not something weird or extreme doesn't make it OK (to me).

@3hoursofPeppa

Yeah I wouldn't be happy with this and I'm not overly impressed by the blasé responses on this thread. Porn apologists and the poor menz with their uncontrollable urges. He'd rather Google strangers performing sex acts, get god only knows what results, all the while ignoring his partner and making her feel unattractive.

Just because it's not something weird or extreme doesn't make it OK (to me).

Exactly. Time to google "divorce solicitors"

Are you sure it was him and not one of your kids? The wording reminds me of the guy on Parks and Recreation who types ‘please take me to hotmail’ into google.

How old is your ds? Or any step children?

Agree with PPs, sounds more like what a child would search

Work on your weight 🚴‍♀️
Get your mojo (aka self-esteem, confidence... etc replace with your desired choice) back 👗
Finance - ducks in a row 🦆

Then search for divorce solicitors

That doesn't seem a very adult way to search for porn. How old are your DC? Could it have been one of them?

Agree with pp, that doesn't strike me how an adult would access porn. They'd go straight to pornhub or similar, not search specifics on google.