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To report elderly driver

30 replies

Propercrimboselecta · 03/08/2020 09:09

There's an elderly man who lives at the other end of the road. I've seen him bumping curbs a LOT, reversing in to bins that end up falling over (big green wheelie bins), nearly hit a car when reversing this morning because he wasn't looking.
There's a primary school at the end of the road on a busy corner, often a lot of traffic moving and children stepping out, so a lot to watch out for.

WIBU to report him for unsafe driving? I feel bad but it could be a child rather than a bin.
Or am I being over dramatic?

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Theladyofshalot · 03/08/2020 10:23

I wouldn't open yourself up to a confrontation. If they have already had a number of accidents its says to me they are not willing to listen to the voice of reason or else they would have stopped already. It could be very easily become neighbour dispute.

A few years ago I used to type up reports for for a local service who assessed people that had been reported to/by the police for unsafe driving. I learned very fast that people will lie to themselves that they are safe to drive and react very very negatively if challenged on it.

One of many many examples - One old lady went the wrong way around the roundabout and blamed the signage to the Police. She was advised that she had to have a test/report done. The assessor had to end the test after she mounted the pavement and passers by had to leap out of the way. She totally refused to accept the outcome of the test . She would absolutely not have it she was not fit to drive.

The scary issue was she was not the exception she was the rule .....

Mothermorph · 03/08/2020 10:33

My Ddad had an accident in the car when he was in his 80s. He hit a stationary parked car (at presumably a fair speed considering the damage to his own car) . Health problems meant his licence was taken away and he was very unhappy about it, but after a while he was over the moon about how much money he saved by not driving. (Luckily he was mobile enough to use public transport , and it was quite reliable where he lived)

AlCalavicci · 03/08/2020 10:33

Could you speak to him and gently explain that he needs to go on a refresher course like this one www.iamroadsmart.com/courses/mature-driver-review ,
( at £50 for a hour i think it is good value ) that way he gets the training he needs to drive safely or told that he is no longer safe to drive .
Either way round he can not hold you 'responsible' for him losing his licence

cantstopsinginglittlebabybum · 03/08/2020 11:13

I reported an elderly neighbour when he mounted the kerb and missed my neighbours daughter by a few inches.

He doesn't drive anymore.

MsMonkey · 03/08/2020 11:22

Do it. My brother's friend was killed by an elderly man driving the wrong way down the motorway

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