Do men lie to get you into bed?

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I recently reconnected with an old flame I knew years ago. I’m single again and we got chatting over text catching up. He said it seemed crazy we never went on a date when we knew each other (kinda FWB situation) and that he got the vibes I wasn’t interested. The thing is I was interested in much more and it broke my heart when he met someone and I never really got over him, even 10 plus years on. I say FWB but that’s how it seemed he wanted things with me at the time. He also said if I hadn’t given off the not interested vibes who knows what could’ve happened and he would’ve loved to have seen more of me if he thought I’d been keen. Is he playing mind games with me or are men generally quite honest?

Some do but a lot of it is they 'think' they feel things that magically disappear once they've had the cookie. They confuse desire with really emotions. I had Yeats poetry off one that turned out not to be sincere 🤦🏼‍♀️ You just have to be alert and not pay too much attention to the sweet talk.

The book “He’s just not that into you” springs to mind over all of this. Thanks for your advice everyone. I do think he’s probably just bored in his marriage and wants to flatter me for a shag. If I hear from him again I will say if you are single in a few months (for real) and want to date me then let me know but I know that won’t happen. It must be a virtual fantasy for an affair in his head. I honestly don’t know why men think I’m only good enough for that. I’m a reasonably intelligent, pretty attractive woman but only seem to attract users for men.