He says he sexually abused me

[talesofterrorfromtheblackship]

Someone ‘close’ to me is a complete car crash of a person, I have cut them out of my life.
But, they have now claimed that they sexually abused me as a child... they did not! I am absolutely certain they did not!
Why would someone make this up? I am so livid that they would try to involve me in their sordid little life by claiming this.
Why on earth would someone do this? I don’t know how to feel about it, other than angry and disgusted.

I now suspect they’ve actually said it as they have told their partner they were SA to stop her chucking them out for their awful (and I mean awful) behaviour, and they have claimed they have also SA me for a reason not to go to the police (because none of it is true).
The worst thing is I think they have just said this to manipulate the GF because she had a very traumatic childhood herself, they are playing upon her biggest vulnerability.
Urgh they’re awful. I have tried to talk to her but she won’t listen.

Your (non) use of pronouns makes this confusing

Op this is really disturbing. Sorry you're going through it.

Your (non) use of pronouns makes this confusing

But says 'he' in the title. It is a bit confusing.

People who suffer with ocd can think they have done things they haven't, one of the lesser known symptoms.

www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/a534c571-035c-4423-9dd9-33c8d425f5f3

When she confessed was she sorry or apologetic in any way OP?

@JammyDodgerz1 that's what I was referring to previously also.

There is no doubt about it people do confess to things they haven't done. Even serious things like murder. This person sounds severely mentally disturbed.

IAmFleshIAmBone

Apologies , I wasn't trying to hijack. From your post, I remembered watching the vid & being shocked, as it's not really something I'd associate with OCD, & must be traumatic for all involved.

So he has told his girlfriend this and told her he was abused?

You think he has said that he abused you so she won’t go to the police about it.
Have you spoken to her directly? How did you hear about this?

@JammyDodgerz1 no, you weren't! I was just glad to see someone else post it, as a lot of people aren't even aware of this type of OCD. I don't think that's what's happening here though from the OP's updates.

[quote JammyDodgerz1]People who suffer with ocd can think they have done things they haven't, one of the lesser known symptoms.

www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/a534c571-035c-4423-9dd9-33c8d425f5f3[/quote]
I recall a program about people with OCD. One man couldn’t have any note paper or pens in the house in case he wrote a confession to a murder he hadn’t committed.

@talesofterrorfromtheblackship

I now suspect they’ve actually said it as they have told their partner they were SA to stop her chucking them out for their awful (and I mean awful) behaviour, and they have claimed they have also SA me for a reason not to go to the police (because none of it is true). The worst thing is I think they have just said this to manipulate the GF because she had a very traumatic childhood herself, they are playing upon her biggest vulnerability. Urgh they’re awful. I have tried to talk to her but she won’t listen.

How many of these would be abusers are there?

Block this man on all devices and turn around if you see him on the street. This man is crazy

@BoggledBudgie There is in fact a type of OCD that can make you confess to things you have done. It is called false memory OCD. The type of OCD you have is very common, those type of thoughts happen to those without OCD, it’s how we draw purpose to the thoughts that makes it OCD. There are lots of subtypes of OCD, and confessing - especially to things you have not done but believe you did because of your intrusive thoughts - is a very common compulsion.

[quote BoggledBudgie]@IAmFleshIAmBone there is not a type of OCD that makes people confess to things they haven’t done. There is the intrusive thoughts part of OCD that can make you believe you’re capable of horrific things, or terrified that you’ll do something horrific if that is what you’re thinking of? E.G I have perinatal OCD that has me convinced I am going to be the reason my perfectly healthy children die. I am terrified that I will somehow stab them on purpose when cooking. I am not capable of doing such a thing, though I do now refuse to let them in the kitchen when I am cooking just in case.[/quote]
I have intrusive thoughts and in my worst times I have convinced myself I’ve committed hideous vilest and violent crime and ‘confessed’ to it more then once during therapy.
It has really screwed me up and when I’m feeling vulnerable anything to do with those types of crime leave me feeling guilty and exposed. I have an awful blushing problem and an incomprehensible belief that others can see inside my head (thanks mum 🙄😪)
I also worked in mental health for a very long time and it was very common for patients to confess to crimes there was no way they could have committed.

[quote NoThankyouPlease]@BoggledBudgie There is in fact a type of OCD that can make you confess to things you have done. It is called false memory OCD. The type of OCD you have is very common, those type of thoughts happen to those without OCD, it’s how we draw purpose to the thoughts that makes it OCD. There are lots of subtypes of OCD, and confessing - especially to things you have not done but believe you did because of your intrusive thoughts - is a very common compulsion.[/quote]
I cried reading your response. It’s always reassuring to know that I’m not the only one. It’s a hideous affliction.
There’s a great book which covers this called Pure, also made into a channel 4 program. The book is way better but can be triggering

A last attempt to manipulate. How disgusting.

@famousforwrongreason look up 'scrupulosity OCD'. Sorry that you suffer with this too.

@talesofterrorfromtheblackship

I now suspect they’ve actually said it as they have told their partner they were SA to stop her chucking them out for their awful (and I mean awful) behaviour, and they have claimed they have also SA me for a reason not to go to the police (because none of it is true). The worst thing is I think they have just said this to manipulate the GF because she had a very traumatic childhood herself, they are playing upon her biggest vulnerability. Urgh they’re awful. I have tried to talk to her but she won’t listen.

That is a fairly common abuser tactic when they lose control of their target. Confessions are usually designed to draw people into the abusers redemption narrative cycle. So! Why would he claim he abused you when he did not? For the redemption cookies he gets from confessing. You have heard of people confessing to police to things they could not possibly have done? Now you know one.

[quote IAmFleshIAmBone]@famousforwrongreason look up 'scrupulosity OCD'. Sorry that you suffer with this too. [/quote]
Wow. Never heard of this but a quick Google is interesting. I was raised in a very warped religious household and part of the indoctrination was that every little thing I do or think is watched and judged, even when alone, in my head etc and I feel its had a lasting effect on my poor brain!

'I have intrusive thoughts and in my worst times I have convinced myself I’ve committed hideous vilest and violent crime and ‘confessed’ to it more then once during therapy'
That sounds like what goes on in my head! I'll talk to my psych about it.
Thanks for the description, it has helped me feel not so alone!

I’d assume that this person has some serious mental health issues and is in desperate need of some help.