Partner never wants to go out

[Haditall]

Every weekend is the same,he gets one day off and just wants to sit in watching tv.i get hes tired and working all week but every day I look after our children alone and I'm limited to where I can take them due to SN child,he knows I look forward to him being off, helping and enabling us to do family things we otherwise would miss out on.trouble is he lies in,then doesn't want to get off the couch ,it always causes a fight and kids can hear it. I feel I'm not being unreasonable as it's not even about me ,its about my other kids having a childhood not defined by the limitations of their siblings disabilities.

When are you asking him? If you are waiting until his day off, he may be less inclined... Start building him up on Tuesday if you want to go out on Saturday. But don't let the kids know too much in case they get disappointed.

Also, what's in it for him? A long drive? A place he likes the kids to visit? His favourite sandwiches on the picnic lunch. Try to sell it to him.

Maybe he just hasn't realized how important it is to you.

Is he the dad is the kids. Because if not you should leave. He is not taking some of the load off, he is adding to it , making your life worse , not better

Grumpy old man syndrome.

There is no cure. You either have to leave or simply ignore the lump on the couch and start to look at how you can take the kids out on your own. Which I appreciate will be difficult in your circumstance. Can you drive?

If I only had 1 day off per week I wouldn't want to do anything either.....

Maybe start with small compromises - tell him you really want to go out for a couple of hours together as a family in the morning, that you’ll be back at lunchtime and he can have a few hours sofa time.

If he’s not willing to consider this, tell him it’s not reasonable and how much it’s affecting your happiness and the family unit. If there’s no response then sadly he doesn’t care enough.

I feel your disappointment OP but working 6 days a week is hard. Is there an option to pull it back to 5 days? If that was my DH I'd be pissed off but at the circumstance, not the DH.
I do agree with the other poster who suggested agreeing something ahead of time. Perhaps on this coming weekend you could agree something for the next. It dies t have to be a full day event. Just make sure you are recognising how knackered he might be before organising it, just so he doesn't feel defensive about his short time off.
I get that you don't get any time off, I am the mother of 3, two of which have relatively demanding SN but if we want someone to change their behavioural patterns we need to make them feel like they are part of the change, not just having it inflicted on them.

Stuff family things. Leave the kids to him and go out yourself.You need a break.

Sorry but if I only had one day off a week I wouldn't want to go out either