I've been friends with a woman I met through work for 15 years. We used to go clubbing, to restaurants, to the gym etc, and we always seemed to be single or in a relationship at the same time. I considered her one of my best friends. I met someone and moved to be with him. I live in Essex (40 mins to Central London) and she lives in West London.
She only ever wanted to meet if it was near her or straight from work in central London.
When I got pregnant, I met her and another friend and she sat there telking me all about how most men cheat on their pregnant wives/girlfriends and talking about how huge I looked. I chalked it up to a bit of jealousy that she was still single but my life was changing. I then barely saw her for a year despite me trying to arrange meet ups (I think we met for lunch once) Then I got married and she came to my wedding. I received no card or present (she has money) and she left at 9pm. She brought a friend as her plus one and I bet she just went out clubbing afterwards.
Since my wedding, we have barely spoken. It's always me texting her. We were supposed to meet after work (in Feb) and she called me an hour before hand saying she was going straight home as she was tired. No sorry, or plan to rearrange. I looked back over our chats and most of the time I start them. I guess we have grown apart but I feel she has made no effort to stop that happening.
Now I'm 16 weeks pregnant and I haven't told her about it. In fact we haven't actually been in contact since I got pregnant. I imagine the first she will know is when the baby is born and I put a picture up!
Part of me feels petty to not tell her. The other part thinks she isnt bothered about my life so why tell her?
AIBU to not tell her?