Asking for clothes for DS birthday

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DS2 first birthday is coming up, I've got him a few toys but not many as we already have so many from DS1!

Grandparent has asked what he wants and I've just said 'I don't know he doesn't need anything, I've not got him much myself' , fast forward to last night got a text to ask what he wants and I've just said to get what they think, they've text again today asking if I've thought about what to get so I replied saying get him some winter clothes, they've got some nice ones in x shop. They've replied saying 'what to save you buying them!' So I ended up replying get him some toys then and some photos of things they could get ( not that we particularly need anymore)

AIBU to ask for some clothes for him that I've seen in x shop or AIBU to ask for specific clothes rather then clothes in general they could choose themselves.
Or are they being unreasonable for asking several times as to what to get and then not want to get what I've asked for.

For some background she would normally give me money for my birthday and my other brother and sisters as have my own grandparents all my life which we've used to buy our own clothes when we was younger. She has bought clothes previously for other child along with some toys so it's not like she is against giving money/buying clothes or we've grown up only receiving toys or gifts as presents rather than something practical. The response has just annoyed me because she's asking several times what to buy!

We have asked for clothing before and nobody has blinked (often a particular favourite character...so DM provided a Thomas the Tank Engine jumper which allowed me to persuade DS2 out of his several sizes too small one). We’ve also asked for character bed linen. My family are very sensible and the DC are delighted.

My family would get anything we asked for. DP family quite like to buy clothes so they wouldn't mind either. I'd go for it. Most people want to be helpful I think.

Think asking for winter clothes is totally fine. Perhaps the brand you asked for was the turn off? I’d happily buy clothes as a gift but would raise an eyebrow if I was asked to buy them from Harrods.

We have been asked to buy clothes for dn for bday, i was happy to as i know it will be used and not have more toys that are not needed or in the way

Why didn't you just ask for money? My nephew turns two tomorrow and my sister has asked for money so she can buy him some new clothes. He has to many toys.

@Onekidnoclue

Think asking for winter clothes is totally fine. Perhaps the brand you asked for was the turn off? I’d happily buy clothes as a gift but would raise an eyebrow if I was asked to buy them from Harrods.

They wasn't expensive clothes at all, you could get an outfit for around £10

@grissomsbugs

Why didn't you just ask for money? My nephew turns two tomorrow and my sister has asked for money so she can buy him some new clothes. He has to many toys.

I guess with them asking what to get several times and me saying I don't know he doesn't need anything I thought if they wanted to give money they would have just done that? And I'm guessing if they didn't want to buy clothes to 'save me buying them' I guess they don't want to give money for me to spend it on something I would have got myself

Me and my mum fiends do clothes for the kids under 3 as they have no real clue about birthdays before that and have so many toys anyway! Yanbu

I also think asking for clothes is fine, and often buy clothes rather than toys for babies as they are too little to care and toys vs clothes (though actually my 3 year old DS loves clothes - an Octonauts top was one of his favourite birthday presents).

If you would prefer they don't buy toys for some reason (my parents seem to have a knack for buying huge things that aren't age appropriate and just clutter up our not very large living room!), then asking for books is a good compromise. You can't have too many of those, as you lose your mind reading the same ones over and over.