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I can’t get over it

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Louise0880 · 01/08/2020 21:52

Hi everyone looking for some input as I’m too embarrassed to confide in anyone we know. I had our son 3 months ago and recently discovered my partner was paying cam girls to do stuff for him. We’ve previously talked about porn and I do not support it at all! He said he had no problem with that as he got nothing from it anyway I stupidly believed him. He told me months ago about ‘a guy in work who used this particular site and I told him I thought that’s was disgusting and it was cheating, he agreed! I’m really struggling to move past this as I checked his bank statement and he was on several times in one day, he even used it while I had our son at his vaccinations appointment. I’ve also found since snooping he had a hidden email address and was on sex sites before we were together. I just don’t know how to move past this. Feel like he has ruined my time with my baby and I can’t get that back! Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? X

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LittleRed53 · 01/08/2020 22:07

Sounds like you need to have a serious talk with him. I know some people think porn is just normal and there's no problem, or that all men watch it whether you know about it or not (not true), but if anyone tells you to just accept it/get over it, ignore them. It is not normal for everyone, and if it's a problem for you, you communicated that to your DP and he acted like he was on board, you have every right to stand your ground now.

He has to genuinely want to stop it himself though, or honestly, it will just continue in secret. You have to help him understand why it's a deal breaker for you (if it is), or he won't take the issue seriously.

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