To ask my DP wont smoke wile our son is ill!

[Tangas]

I'm out tonight and Daddy is babysitting, and DS has a really bad chest infection.
Now I know DP wont smoke in the house, he'll go out side. But I know that the ciggeret smoke stays on clothes, hair ect... I've asked him not to smoke tonight as he will have to be doing alot of cuddling and close contact. I'm I being unreasonable?

Sorry bad spelling in title

You know you're not.

Ask him not to smoke tonight and explain the reasons why.. mention asthma statistics and risks of passive smoking (which includes "old smoke" on clothes, etc.) Any reasonable father will understand and cooperate.

I did explaine all the reason I could posssibly think why... But he'll obvioulsy do what he wants. Its making me think that he couldn't really care about the effects it could have on such a young, poorly baby!

Tell him that carbon monoxide stays on the breath for several minutes after having a fag. A couple of years ago DH had a fag and then 5 mins later walked under our smoke detector (which also detects CO) and sort of blew upwards - nothing major just a short sharp exhalation of breath as he pushed open a door- that was enough to set the alarm off.

oh my god.. see that just goes to show how disgusting they are!
The thing that does my head in, is that, he did give up a few weeks back and had gone 4 a couple of months without a fag. So to not have one tonight wouldn hurt him!!
And when I said that he just looked at me, laughed and said "you are joking"

YANBU and your dh really needs to stop for everyones sake.

Sorry, your DP.

My gut reaction goes against the tide here. I think you are being unreasonable.

I just cant get over the fact that he's just smoked a fag then he's gonna be breathing all that CO2 over DS who's V ill!
sorry i'm having a propper moan now!
If im not being unreasonable maybe i'm over reacting! But i feel that i don't want to go out now. DS is 5mo and this is his first illness. I cant justify going out and leaving my baby with a father covered in poision!

YANBU.
How old is DS?
Increased risk of cot death in children whose parents smoke. Tell him that. I hate to soudn really militant but this really gets my goat, also tell him someone on mumsent thinks he is a selfish tosser, both to you and your ds - to you for not giving you peace of mind when you go out, to ds for seemingly not giving too much of a shite about his chest infection.

Don't let it stop you going out and having fun tangas. Obviously it would be better for your poorly baby if he didn't smoke at all but tbh as long as your DP only smokes outside then it'll be fine.

5 mo. That is way too young to be hanging around smoky dad. you need to kick smoky dad;s arse off to dad training camp.

like i said poitydog- Maybe not unreasonable most deffently over reacting. I just don't want DS to get any worse!

TBH I wouldn't go out if my partner couldn't do this basic and important thing for his child.

not only would i not go out, but might chuck dp out, just for a bit ,till he grows up.

I will get called for being over dramatic but

Your child could die because your partner won't quit smoking.

Cot death. Chest infections. Lung cancer, etc etc.

You know what you have to do.

Na.. he is a good man. just can be really unreasonable sometimes! I gotta go out really i've payed up front for a course of Pilates, can't waste that money! plus i'll only be 1hr. Then i can come back home and smother my boy in cuddles!!!!!!
But me and DS are gonna be having propper chat about Quiting (AGAIN)