To think my neighbours could be more considerate (trampoline)

[Seashellsally]

We have a big garden as do the neighbours next door but they have moved the trampoline right next to our fence and they have children over everyday jumping, looking over the fence and shouting at us.

I'm autistic and so are my 2 children so social interactions are a struggle for us but it's made me not want to go in the garden as well as my children because they are always jumping and shouting questions and watching us.

I hate confrontation but it's really bothering me now and we've stopped using the garden because of it.

How can we resolve this without causing a scene or is it something we just need to accept because they're on their property?

A recent thread saw a poster buy a gazebo type sheet thing to assemble on your side to obscure the trampoline.
They are twats to invade your privacy imo..

A friend of mine had this problem. She just told the children off for shouting at her. Did help that she was a teacher. She didn't get on with their parents so didn't care if she didn't speak to them.

We have this too! Plus a climbing frame and a swing set 🤦🏻‍♀️

Add this to the near constant diy and garden celebrations (with large groups!) they are quickly turning in to nightmare neighbours.

Shade sail!! That's what I meant!!

Our nice neighbours constantly have music on in the garden. It was so loud last week I had to mention it. They have a hot tub and TV out there. Now they have a fire pit going, covering our garden in smoke. I really don't want to complain again as I think that is when things may start to go sour but if it happens again I'll have to.

We did get along really well but I'm finding them irratating now. I just want to live somewhere with no neighbours.

I feel for you. In my case it’s the noise that bothers me, not the looking over. Can you afford to buy some big bamboos in large pots for instant screening? I bought some 8ft bamboos in 2ft pots to screen another neighbour’s eyesore. (Not the trampoline, something else. There’s no disguising the irritating noise. )

Just speak to them, it doesn't need to be confrontational.
'Hi neighbour, I can see your dc are really enjoying the trampoline and I'm not complaining about them playing on it. But would it be possible for you to ask them not to shout at us and ask questions when we're outside too? The dc and I are autistic so we don't find it easy to manage ourselves'

@TrainspottingWelsh

Just speak to them, it doesn't need to be confrontational. 'Hi neighbour, I can see your dc are really enjoying the trampoline and I'm not complaining about them playing on it. But would it be possible for you to ask them not to shout at us and ask questions when we're outside too? The dc and I are autistic so we don't find it easy to manage ourselves'

The 'autistic' part is none of their business and anyone would find it rude and intrusive.

If they won't listen OP, trellis + bamboo or very prickly fast growing roses/ Or gazebo or sail.

Or water your garden a lot - Oops...

Fair enough @Nanny0gg, being autistic isn't something I see as shameful or needing to be hidden, but if op would prefer not to mention it she can leave that part out. I was just trying to prevent the possibility of the neighbour agreeing she would tell them, but telling op could also tell them if she hears them first.
Possibly 'my dc are shy' or similar might be a less personal way to explain why they aren't comfortable just engaging with the dc from next door, whether in conversation or telling them to be quiet, as you'd generally expect dc to be able to manage between themselves with minimal adult interference.

Either way, if op doesn't like confrontation it's a lot easier to have a quick friendly chat than dealing with the repercussions of erecting/ growing shit or spraying water over. That would be a ridiculous move for anyone, let alone if your dc are already distressed by harmless, if intrusive, playing children.