I've upset my genuinely lovely mother today by telling her that she can't spend one on one time looking after my 6 month old twins if she is sharing a car with her friends, as was planned this morning.
She was meant to be picking up a friend to go to an exhibition (said friend is always blagging lifts, but that's another story!) and had planned to drive with the windows down and masks on.
The risk of doing so was probably absolutely tiny but my brain is telling me the guidance is there for a reason and that she shouldn't be risking driving with others in her car during a pandemic, especially given that she's 70 and diabetic, never mind anything else.
I told her I didn't want to control her life or stop her seeing her friends but if she was going make the choice to share the car with her friend then she would only be able to see my children at a distance for the next couple of weeks and not cuddle them.
She was really upset and torn as it's only this past week that we've relaxed enough to let her hold them and babysit them again after lockdown. I told her even that had been us bending the guidelines and that we're not really prepared to go another step into risk territory by exposing the boys (who were very premature) to another household via her exhibition trip.
It meant that she cancelled her trip, let her friend down and all parties were upset. I feel so guilty about it, given that at this stage, the risk probably is very minimal - was I being unreasonable? It seems like the whole world is getting back to normal and I feel like a right bitch being so strict when all I'd like is for the twins to know their relatives!