MIL and other household

[Ncworrier]

I have 1 young DC born just before lockdown.
We have been seeing his grandma (my MIL) sparingly since we have been allowed to do so. I am not subject to a local lockdown.
MIL wants to have him round her house on her own this week, but she also sees her other GC (1 household). I know that their parents recently took them to a busy park with no masks. They are not concerned about covid.
Do I reschedule with MIL?

YABU= No
YANBU= Yes

I would reschedule. At the current time it's not about doing things to please others.

Not sure what your concern is. Outdoors in a park with children who don’t necessarily have to wear masks is low risk anyway.

Oh sorry I should clarify, when I say park I dont mean a small kids play park I mean a large outdoor area with lots of adults and children. If it was just a playground with kids I don't think I would be as worried.

Going to a park, however big, is fine. There is no need to wear masks outside. I think it'll be ok for your baby to see his/her grandparent.

I understand I'm a worrier.
I think it's a combination of having my first baby and having someone look after him for the first time especially during this scary time.

Does he need to go to MIL’s ?
Is this about her having him to herself for a while, or is it to settle him in as she will be having him when you go back to work ?

I wouldn’t see it as risky myself . If you feel you might enjoy a couple of hours to yourself I’d take her up on the offer but if you are not comfortable being apart from your baby that is a fine too and you shouldn’t have to look for reasons to justify yourself .

Why does she need to have DC at her house alone? Surely baby is only a few months old so I really don't see the need? Often there is a rush from GPs to have baby alone for some weird reason and even without the risk of covid I would be dialing this back. Surely granny coming to visit or you all going for a walk round the part etc is fine for such a young baby?

MIL wants to have him round her house on her own this week

Regardless of where she takes him why on her own?

I don't get how anyone can ask a parent to pack off their baby for some alone time with them. Offer, yes! But ask/demand? Weird!

It's very low risk. I think you're being over cautious but I understand why. I had a baby bang on the middle of covid and we've been going to grandparents weekly who have my nieces and nephew regularly, who also go to nursery/school.
Just washing hands, sanitising and no kissing

If your baby is only a few months old, are you happy for him to go anywhere without you?
At that age, I only let my ds with his dad.

I'm not against my MIL babysitting. She made the offer nicely and we get on really well so it's not anything against her. If it weren't for covid I wouldn't hesitate at all.
I'm just an anxious person and I have trouble realistically weighing risk.

There is absolutely no risk in going to a big park. There's no need for adults or children to wear a mask outdoors at a park, so I suspect you're using that as an excuse (or as you say, your judgement of risk is way off).

Thanks for the opinions, its given me a lot to think about. I've asked for the thread to be deleted.
I know I'm struggling with new mum nerves, but theres a lot of risk about at the moment, and I tend towards being over cautious.