It's Friday, the weather's glorious... AIBU to feel my heart sinking? (noisy neighbours)

[BeforetheFlood]

I can hear them getting it all set up. Crates of bottles clanking as they unload them from the car, speakers already in position and turned halfway up. I guess that if they start drinking this early they might just crash out before 2am this time, but I'm not holding out too much hope.

They're nice enough, but there's 3 houses in a row, lived in by people with no kids who love a booze up. I don't want to be a fun-sucking killjoy, but AIBU to wish they'd realise that the rest of the street don't want to spend every warm evening in summer either inside with the doors and windows closed, or listening to their shit music and loud voices until the small hours?

I hear you OP. We have similar here. On a nice day our neighbours a few doors down let their kids out into the garden at 8am and they scream and screech all through the day until about 9pm.

Then just as the screeching starts to subside, the house that backs onto us starts with the music and loud sing-alongs

I don’t begrudge people having a good time, but I do agree that when EVERY sunny day turns into a party it gets a bit wearing, not to mention when it goes on past midnight.

I’ve actually enjoyed the few cloudy weeks we’ve had just so I haven’t had a soundtrack to every day! Then again, I do love peace and quiet. Would love a house with no neighbours one day

Have a couple of glasses of wine in your garden and go to bed with a fan?

Would love a house with no neighbours one day
My rightmove habit always ramps up to obsessive levels during hot weather. But then I think about winter and being isolated and I fear I'm too much of a wuss to hack it really!

Have a couple of glasses of wine in your garden and go to bed with a fan?
I'd love to. However, I'm a peri-menopausal woman with lockdown hair, and fans are a bit thin on the ground these days

Ime get your music on now op.

You're not a fun-sucking killjoy at all.

They're inconsiderate cheeky fuckers.

You're going to let loads of comments from people calling you miserable/telling you to join them/move house as soon as they finish getting their chicken burgers ready but YANBU at all.

Contact the council, who will be able to register a complaint of anti-social behaviour and work out if they rent/own. Until 2am is ridiculous, I’d be tempted to interfere with their speakers.

The thing is, if I did want to join them I know they'd crack open a cold one for me without hesitation. They're nice, friendly, sociable people. But that's the problem, because I'm a party-avoider who just wants to watch Gardener's World with my patio doors open of a Friday evening, without having Monty Don's silken tones drowned out by drum n bass and raucous laughter.

I know the feeling OP neighbour over the road already has most of the street filled with their guests cars. Last time they blocked my drive and it was such a farce getting them to move the car. I'm waiting for some other neighbour to start soon luckily I'm out part of tonight.

Our 2 noisiest neighbours have both disappeared for the weekend.
God, the peace .... makes me realise just how noisy they are.
The rest of the road must be savouring this.

I'm reluctant to go down the council reporting route because I know it would have to be declared if we ever decided to move (which we actually might, though I love this house and have been here 15 years.)

It's depressing how many people are affected by this issue, and how helpless it makes you feel. I'd really like there to be more of a community pushback against it, like there was about littering and cleaning up after your dog.

I feel for you, OP. Two houses developed behind us have just sold. I’m dreading the new owners being noisy.

I agree OP - it's ASB in the same way as littering, graffiti etc, and can really affect quality of life. I hate it when people say any level of noise is just fine before 11pm.

U don’t have to go to council reporting route. Solicitors letter shd do the trick. What you’re describing cd be statutory nuisance.

We get the lovely sounds of cats fighting...

Next door neighbour has two cats who terrorises everyone else’s cat.

They particularly have it in for the ginger Tom who lives in the garden behind us.

You could be chilling nicely and then suddenly hear all the caterwauling.

Luckily my cat isn’t a big fighter so she avoids them and prefers to stay inside away from them. But at times I’ve seen her stalking them... but she’s crafty.

She leads them into the garden where she knows our dogs will bark and chase them . I do shut them up quickly

But we also hear so many other dogs barking too and no one steps in to stop them.

Then added on to that is screaming children. Most I can tolerate but one child is constantly screaming, whinging and crying. It’s...difficult

It's hard, as we all find things annoying for not the same ones.
See, I don't mind evening noise, I enjoy hearing people partying, laughing, playing music and singing along etc. I can go to sleep in a noisy environment so I really don't mind. Children playing are fine as well.
On the other hand I hate early morning noise, dogs barking or cats coming into my garden to poo or chase birds,

But then who am I to police early risers and pet owners. Maybe I'm just lucky that all houses around are still reasonable in the noise they make and I haven't met the neighbours from hell yet!

Fire up the petrol strimmer and leave on tick over for the rest of the evening

I can see my gammon chav neighbour setting up his decks on his patio now. Oh joy.

I'm looking forward to loudly mowing the lawn at 8am tomorrow.

Its summer, it's the weekend people want to enjoy their gardens. Realistically how many occasions do we get to do it here, 1 month a year?. Sit out & have a glass of wine with them you never know you might enjoy it or find something good on tv & zone them out. My neighbour's choice in music is shitty but I can't begrudge them enjoying their garden in the way they want to.

Unfortunately mine are the same. I’m tolerant to a certain extent but when it gets ridiculous I put on my own music and drown them out. I bought a super loud party speaker from Costco for £100 and it’s way louder than any domestic speaker the neighbours have. Hopefully it annoys them as much as their music annoys me.

It’s a hard one, I’d be so fed up too but we do t get much good weather and there hasn’t been much else to do up til now, it’s a shame now they can that they don’t go and be loud in a pub garden instead. 2am is ridiculous

I do find it reassuring and comforting to know that other people feel the same. There's something very isolating about it when it happens, so it's good to feel the solidarity with other sufferers.

It's also really interesting to get other perspectives. I liked your point PleasePassTheCoffee about sleeping in a noisy environment. I wonder if that's something you can sort of train yourself to do? Motherhood made me such a light sleeper, my eyes fly open at a footstep on the landing, never mind a drunken chorus of 'Come On Eileen' at 2am, but I guess it's noise that doesn't actually require anything of me, so technically I should be able to tune it out. I'll give it a try. I remember as a kid drifting off to sleep to the sound of the adults drunkenly talking and laughing downstairs, so it should be the same thing, right?!

Or, there's always the option of investing heavily in a) a dyson fan b) top notch noise-cancelling headphones c) top notch super-loud party speaker d) the loudest petrol strimmer money can buy.

Find your new love of Chinese opera, to be enjoyed loudly for the full experience a couple of mornings a week.

(sorry - name change confusion! Forgot I was signed in under a different username on my phone!)

Setting out decks is awful. There would be uproar if anyone did that round here. Anyway its raining now

The weather where I am is absolutely horrendous, is it forecast to be nice all evening where you are? Praying it rains for you so at least the party gets moved inside! Have they had a party quite recently or has it been a while?