My aunt has been wanting me to spend time with her. The problem is I don't actually have much time these days. I have two small DC (one disabled), I work and have very little down time. I also have two lovely DSC who are here 50/50.
I'm not working today but have to go into town to buy the children some sandals, unavoidable as DD lost one yesterday. I accepted my aunt's invitation to meet up and said I'd meet her in the town centre with the kids and we'll go to a cafe and get a drink / have a catch up.
She said she doesn't want to go to the town centre because she doesn't do crowds, she wants to go to the park instead.
I don't want to go to the park as me and DH spent bloody hours there yesterday eve with all the kids. I added if she wants to leave it for another day then that's fine with me and we'll try sort something next week.
She's now in a mood / feeling dejected.
Was I being unreasonable?
Should I have made the effort to go to the park again ?
As much as I love her there does seem to be an unrealistic sense of expectation to maintain frequent in-person contact which just isn't feasible or appealing for me unfortunately. This isn't the norm with extended family is it?
She never had children (by choice) so she doesn't appreciate how difficult it is to commit to plans last minute, or how stressful it can be lugging a huge double buggy around esp in this heat when it's avoidable.