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Gift at baby shower

31 replies

OldCow1 · 30/07/2020 19:42

Is money ok? Daughter is asking for ideas because going to a baby shower. I said lovely card and the money but she feels that's terrible.. aibu

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OldCow1 · 30/07/2020 19:43

Is it ok to give money as your gift at a baby shower

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NeutralJanet · 30/07/2020 19:44

I'd probably get a gift card for somewhere like Next so that the mum to be can choose baby clothes or something for the nursery, rather than give cash.

bravotango · 30/07/2020 19:44

Can she see if anyone wants to club in on a John Lewis voucher or something?

Cheesewine · 30/07/2020 19:44

I say yes. Can buy what you need then instead of getting a load of stuff you don't need.

OverTheRainbow88 · 30/07/2020 19:45

Yes! Don’t see why not! I got so many comforters that none of my kids liked!!

CaptainCarp · 30/07/2020 19:46

Most people just take a couple of babygros/muslin cloths or even some face masks/nice "smellies" for mum if they don't want to buy anything too extravagant.

I don't think money would necessarily be a bad thing just not the usual really. Maybe more understandable at the moment with people not wanting to got the shops at the moment.

Spied · 30/07/2020 19:46

You could but I'd personally prefer something that a bit of thought had gone into. Something to show you were a bit excited for me and the new arrival.

singtanana · 30/07/2020 19:46

An alternative is to buy something for mum (chocs, bath stuff, anything for them not related to baby stuff). If that makes it easier for her to buy.

20viona · 30/07/2020 19:46

Money is absolutely fine it will be welcomed by the new mum in amongst the hundreds of muslins and sleepsuits!

Babs709 · 30/07/2020 19:48

I don’t often buy gifts for baby showers (not a fan but happy to attend). Have always politely explained I’ll wait until baby arrives and no one has ever complained at that, quite the opposite. So tell her not to feel obliged!

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OldCow1 · 30/07/2020 19:53

I'm surprised but very glad I posted . Really thought everybody would agree because of price of essentials ( nappies etc etc etc etc etc) Will leave her to choose something her friend would love.

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 30/07/2020 19:54

Buy an outfit at a diff size to newborn eg. 6-9 months, conscious of the season

ShirleyPhallus · 30/07/2020 19:55

If you get a voucher please make sure it can be redeemed online. As someone who gave birth in lockdown, we received a lot of vouchers for places like Gap which can only be redeemed instore and obviously couldn’t go in to shops for a long time

Fairybio · 30/07/2020 19:56

If she feels she must take something, I would take chocolates or flowers for the mother-to-be, and then would give a present for the baby when it is born. Not cash.

MsSquiz · 30/07/2020 19:57

I would also buy something for the mum to be, and save a gift for the baby for when it arrives.

Alternatively a voucher for Next/John Lewis/M&S/Boots would work.

At my baby shower, I asked for (via my SIL who organised it to mention of people did wish to bring a gift) a book for the baby. That way it built up her book collection & each one has a little written note from the giver. Plus books cover all budgets so it seemed an easy option

latheritup · 30/07/2020 19:59

Gift ideas:
Muslins
Sleep bags
Gift card for Next (they do lovely and good quality baby clothes)
Child's Farm products

If you don't want to give cash Smile

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OldCow1 · 30/07/2020 20:06

My thought was cash because not sure what their financial position is. They may have more money than the bank of England. I do hope so. If they're struggling to stick money on an energy meter, cash probably better. Daughter would have more idea. Thank you for replying everybody that did. X

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HeyMicky · 30/07/2020 20:10

I agree something for mum. I have several times given new mum affirmation cards - yes, sounds like bollocks but have been well received. Interesting and fashionable teething necklaces are also good, as are cleaning or laundry vouchers

WhoWouldHaveThoughtThat · 30/07/2020 20:13

Book token. Those baby books are stupidly expensive, and the stories are not that great either. Who ever heard of a talking vine weevil?

Thriceisnice · 30/07/2020 20:18

I give vouchers for places like adsa or tesco that do nice baby bits, but where people could also put ittowards groceries if they struggle for monet on maternity leave

LtJudyHopps · 30/07/2020 20:21

The one4all gift cards from the post office. Can be spent in a variety of shops as well as online. Can also be spent on mum instead of baby!

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OldCow1 · 30/07/2020 20:22

Hard hat? Cash - spend it in any store in the UK, maybe beyond you choose.? Tell me off if I'm being facetious. Smile

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FelicityPike · 30/07/2020 20:23

A card and give a gift when baby is safely here.

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OldCow1 · 30/07/2020 20:25

Does it come across as insulting if you give cash? Dont think it's wrong but a social faux pas?

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OverTheRainbow88 · 30/07/2020 20:31

Not insulting at all, useful and useable!