Friend cancelled invitation for tea AIBU?

[sleepeasy]

Last week a friend invited myself and ds for tea this afternoon and we agreed that we'd sort out a time later on. I rang her today to see what time she was expecting us and she said that she'd made other plans and wasn't available. I'm very disappointed and feel that she's probably had a better offer that she's accepted. Ds is upset because he was expecting to play with his friend. She was very grumpy and offhand last time I saw her too but I just thought she was out of sorts. She invited us of her own volition, by the way, I didn't suggest it.
AIBU? Has this friendship now run its course?

If she invited you of her own volition, I would say there is no reason to say the friendship has run its course, that's a bit dramatic. Maybe she has had a bad couple of weeks.

It sounds very rude. Why would she make other plans when she'd already invited you over? If there was a good explanation I'd say just forget about it but she sounds like a pretty cr*p friend.

just plain rude!

sleepeasy, I forget stuff all the time. I think maybe give her the benefit of a doubt. Seriously -I can't count the amount of times i have made a plan, then it disappears completely from my head only to emerge either just before or (d'oh!) just after the planned event. Make another plan, remind her, and if she makes an excuse then re-evaluate.
Good Luck

Maybe, because you only phoned on the day for a confirmation of the time, sfeel that you might not have been that interested in coming over, and that you were hoping for something better to come along.

Talk to her it is the only way you will know what she is thinking.

its tricky isnt it - id be hacked off too

maisemor is right - best talk to her - though that can be awkward i guess

i suppose id try and invite them to you asap and be very cheerful about it - and see what happens

maybe she forgot and felt a bit put on the spot when you called.

Why don't you invite here and assess how interested she is?

I think I'll invite her over here and see what response I get.

Hate that - my MIL does that all the time. V cheeky.

I would strongly suggest giving her a break and giving her the benefit of the doubt.

You have no idea what might have happened in her life in the last couple of weeks, nor how her health is.

I cancelled 2 things last week without wanting to get into heavy explanations because unfortunately both DH and DS were bereaved by 2 separate events.

How the hell do you know why she cancelled .. it was only tea fgs

call her and suggest a date and time she comes to you

oops, think I might have taken the OP a little personally .. sorry

Hi Sleepeasy. How long have you been friends? I would be a bit hacked off too but maybe give her the benefit of the doubt. It is rude though.

I have a good friend who although I have known for about 7 years, am only just getting to grips with her personality. She is a lovely, lovely person, would do anything for you but at times is so unreliable. I tend to be the sort of person who gets very offended by what happened to you and take it really personally. Sometimes I send her a text message which never gets a response and then she will ring me and scold me for not keeping in touch and I know full well she has had the text message. Just lately I have become very philosophical about this and just tell myself that its not personal, its just her and I either accept her as a friend as she is or stress about it and lose her friendship.

I'm not excusing bad manners but we are all different and I suppose that is what draws us to people.

Hope you work things out with her.