My husband and I go to bed at completely different times. He goes between 1am and 3am. I end up staying up later than I should and usually go at 1130. I often get woken up when he comes to bed even though he tries to be quiet.
My Teenage son has started to also stay up until 1am and also keeps me awake. I feel increasingly lonely going to bed on my own and more and more tired. I do not want my son to think staying up this late is a normal thing to do but it’s too late.
My husband often has a nap for an hour in the evening and completely refuses to consider trying to change his habits: he says planning his work and having those hours late at night are integral to who he is. I see his point, but getting up early feeling all energetic and busy is part of who I am and I wake up feeling like total rubbish! He has suggested he comes up with me some nights when I go to bed but it seems to still be too late. He works till 7pm in summer and often is asleep 830-930.
We have been married more than 10 years and generally have been quite close, I’ve always gone to bed on my own but somehow didn’t really notice when our kids were younger. I have started to fantasise about my own quiet house where I can go to sleep when I want to.