Singles Event in Park

[GreenTease]

This flyer has gone up in my local park to promote a "Singles Social" taking place this Saturday. AIBU to think that this is misogynistic, ageist, heteronormative and creepy AF?

Or maybe that's just my fantasy. Someone please post a trip report.

Actually, if anything, the women seem to be in control. It's the man who has to decide whether to leave his details so she can contact him if she wants to. If he doesn't want to and she does, I guess she could ask, or she could let him move on and nobody will ever know she was interested.

Our house backs onto a park. If I saw this (cringey) poster up I’d be up in my daughter’s bedroom with binoculars and popcorn ready for the show. I definitely think it’s a personal quest as that’s such a specific age range.

Where is this? I might go

It's just socially distanced speed dating, no need to get het up over it. They'd have to put an age range as you don't want 18 year olds being paired up with 50 year olds. Don't go if you don't like it.

Blythe Hill Fields, London, SE23 1SP - I just leave it here for those who think it might be classified as essential travel and give it a go. Sadly I don’t fit the age category but I might just take a dog with me for a very long walk with binoculars 😂😂😂
(On the side note - Likely to meet up with some Mumsnetters than a knight in shining armour with a manly approach! 😂😂

They'd have to put an age range as you don't want 18 year olds being paired up with 50 year olds.

I’d agree with that. As 36 year old woman looking at similar events I was finding that the age ranges for me for events that I could go to in person were 18-30, 25-35 and then took a huge leap to 35-60.

If you still want children, or don’t generally want to be perved over by grandads and feel like you are wasting your time then more specific age groups can really work. 28 - 38 sounds great for me although I’d be willing to date someone in their early 40s too.

I think it would have been far worse to not specify age.

And so what if it’s someone on a personal mission looking for a girlfriend? People, including me, moan all the time about modern dating/online dating. Lots of people wouldn’t mind doing things “the old fashioned way”. We are in a time where dating is especially difficult, if you are single you might have (like me) spent months without seeing anyone, your biological clock might be ticking, you might be desperately lonely and feel stuck. At least this person is trying to find a solution which might help others in the same boat. Yeah the “manly approach” thing is a bit cringeworthy and some women object to being called “ladies” but I see nothing wrong with the event or the age range. It’s clear the men will be expected to move on after a short time, they have to leave their contact details, it’s in public in broad daylight, seems fine to me.

I suspect that the audience will be bigger than the number of participants.

Just a gentle reminder! 😂😂

That sounds awful.

Are the women not allowed to get up and move away if they don't like the man?

@SayakaMurata

That sounds awful.

Are the women not allowed to get up and move away if they don't like the man?

I think you may have missed the concept of speed dating 🤔

It’s just speed dating. It’s trying to be funny as the men are the ones who move along in this case.

Bit sad that people aren't uncomfortable about/can't see the inherent creepiness in this flyer. Who has organised it? Is anyone registered or is it just a free for all? Why are "ladies" taking a seat? It honestly sounds like something from 50 years ago and I can't understand why we haven't moved on from this.

This is fucking weird. I feel like it'll just be a load of incels that'll end up in a circle jerk

What if you've just turned 39?!

You're past it, girlfriend and definitely won't be welcome The words 'bullet' and 'dodge' spring to mind ....

Oh shit I’m only 27 I’m gonna have to miss this one

I live very near there!

I am way out of the age bracket but I'm a sociologist. I may go there with my clipboard.

This is hilarious! Intrigued by a 'manly approach' and love the use of 'lovely ladies' on the final line...reminded me of Father Ted and the lovely ladies contest

Well I know of a couple of park singles socials like this for lesbians but there’s no weirdly specific age range and no need for a ‘manly’ approach (unless that’s your thing of course)...

It's poorly written, but there's no point mixing gay and straight people in a dating event, or having an unrealistically large age range. I think 28-38 is designed to be a good half decade out of university, but not yet approaching middle age. It's fairly standard for the women to remain seated while the ("manly") men move around.

@MartySouth

I live very near there!

I am way out of the age bracket but I'm a sociologist. I may go there with my clipboard.

Do it!

I must say, though, 10-15 minutes is a heck of a long time to make small talk if you're not hitting it off with someone.

I’m happy that it’s ‘heteronormative’ - I certainly wouldn’t want to be a dating event full of blokes...

Oh the devil in me is REALLY hoping it's some trans rights activists looking to date some heterosexual men

(Note: trans rights ACTIVISTS, not normal transwomen)

Creepily worded.

But speed dating events have to be either gay, straight or bisexual surely, otherwise if all different orientations were mixed up, the chances of matching with someone who is the right orientation for you would be diminished and you'd be wasting a load of time.

The age range is odd but I can see the logic, people wanting to get serious.