When good friendships go bad

[Poptart4]

Anyone ever accepted a favour from a friend and regretted it or even lost the friendship?

I was just reading another thread where this has happened and there was afew interesting, similar stories from other posters. Its peaked my interest.

My brother offered to help me move last year. Actually insisted he help me, wouldn't take no for an answer. Made me change the moving date and cancel another person that had agreed to help as he was now doing it. Fucker never showed up (got drunk instead), l lost time and money rearranging everything again as if moving isnt stressful enough. To this day he cant understand why I was so angry. But hes family so I'm stuck with him. But I'll never accept his "help" again.

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We're away for a few days next week and I asked my friends if anyone could pop in and feed the cat. Flaky friend said yes annoyingly. She's the kind that promises things then lets you down, she forgets or she's just so busy time gets away from her! She's also not got a good history with taking animal care seriously.... buying puppies for her kids for Xmas, returning them to the shelter in March, etc!
So I've set up my Hive Motion Sensor (which is meant for activating lights if someone comes downstairs in the night, but I deactivated when the cat kept triggering it!). I'll be able to tell if someone has entered the house. If no one's been in by 6pm each day, one of my more reliable friends is on call to pop round.
It's awkward that I can't just say "no, you're unreliable, I don't trust you to think that feeding my cat is high priority, I'd prefer other person to do it", but the fall out would be massive.

Yeah, I have an ex-friend who I fell out with about 4 years ago. Reflecting on it, she’d actually been quite nasty for a while. She was allowed her opinion but when I dared to say anything it was always wrong etc. She finally made some very nasty comments that I just couldn’t let go so I went NC and that was that. I’ve seen on SM that she’s been having a hard time recently but I don’t feel sorry for her. I feel far sorrier for the MNers on here who I’ve never even met.

@ImaginaryCat it's hard when it's a friend you want to keep. I think it's almost easier when its family. I tell my brother straight I dont want his help because hes flack. He gets offended but were family so we can fight and get over it pretty quickly.