AIBU to be annoyed still

[Snazzy6]

So my MIL and her partner threw their toys out of their pram and told me they knew what game I was playing, in a not very nice manner right in front of my 3 small children.

The long story short is she fell out with my partner he didn’t want our children going to her house so as not to disappoint our children and to try and help her resolve her issue with her son I invited her to come to our garden. Her partner has regularly stirred issues between dp and myself so I didn’t particularly want him there and the opportunity to help her understand why her son was upset with her after they’d had an argument. So she turns up with her partner I politely said sorry I didn’t invite dp to which they flipped while my 4 & 2 year old are stood right next to me accusing me of being a game player.

My dp has since spoken to them both without me being present they’ve slagged next off as per usual as I’m a private person I don’t want anyone just appearing when they fancy it, they denied what they’d said to me, couldn’t explain what their actual problem is with me bla bla bla!

All these issues have been going on since our first ds was born, and I’ve just gone with the fact I get bitched about dp says he sticks up for me. I think he does. But I’ve just seen her for the first time and I just can’t get over being called a game player. I want an apology and an explanation. Dp is pissed with me as it obviously drags it up for him again but how can he expect me to just constantly suck it up when I’m told they’ve said this and that to me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Sorry I waffled. I just feel like I’m going insane

So, MiL fell out with her son. You decided to "help her" fix it with him? Did either of them want to fix it? Did he know what you were doing? Why didn't he want the children to go to her house? Why aren't you backing him up over his wishes regarding his children? You say MiL doesn't like you, and isn't nice so why bother?
You sound like an interfering busy body tbh...
Mind your business, back your DP up, respect his wishes and leave well alone.

Dp knew I’d invited her over. Argh it’s such a long story that I couldn’t put it all as it would go on forever.

All I’m asking is if AIBU If I’ve been told I’m playing games! She’s since been told by dp that he knew what I was doing and he thought it was a good idea. The original argument wasn’t about me.

You get involved was unhelpful, at best! The issue is between your DP, his mother and her DP.

Your DC will be fine with low contact with their grandparent if that’s what your DP thinks best.

Understandable how MiL could THINK you were playing games/being manipulative.

Don’t understand what you mean by “I’ve just seen her for the first time“? You say there have been problems for some time now. Assume there’s back story and that this is a ‘final straw’ kind of situation.

All I’m asking is if AIBU If I’ve been told I’m playing games!

sorry, it does sound a bit like you are playing games. You invited MIL over for some sort of confrontation in your front garden, and then told her partner to go away? presumably in front of your children? What sort of partner would you expect to allow your MIL to go for such a meeting unsupported?

You sound like you maybe were well intentioned, but no, I don't think you were being reasonable, to set up, or attempt to control something like this, especially in front of your children, who may remember this for ever.