Aibu to say no to people holding newborn?

[Jj2431]

I'm due to give birth in the next 3 weeks. Where I live the rate of coronavirus infection isn't too high at the moment but I feel uncomfortable with close family holding baby considering that social distancing seems to have gone out the window. Here are my examples

My parents

• Going to the pub 2/3 times a week and using public transport to get there and back
• my mother visiting her friends house for cups of tea inside.
• my mother visiting the hairdressers house without any mask etc
• my parents having my aunt around there's every day inside.

My sister

• giving lifts to work colleagues without masks
• visiting her friends regularly with no distance. There are lots of photos on social media of them all in a group with arms around each other
• visiting the pub regularly
• visiting her mother in law and other relatives regularly.

My mother in law

• looking after elderly relative but allowing other family members to visit in tiny flat with no social distancing
• going to other family members houses
• going to her boyfriends house and they don't live together.

They are all adults so can do what they please and as they see fit without my permission but aibu to either say no to visits after my baby is born unless they can social distance properly for a couple of weeks or make them wear masks when they do visit?

Not being unreasonable at all as far as I’m concerned.

I’m due in three weeks as well. No one is coming near For a long while (I don’t have any visitors at all anyway for my babies for 6 weeks anyway, doesn’t go down well but so what).

Social distancing is still in place even indoors (bar the exception for a single person to bubble with one other) so I wouldn’t be allowing it. Not sure how good a babies immune system would be so would be extra careful.

I did say that to my sister and she just went into denial and said it was allowed. I give up.

Just stand your ground. Text them all beforehand so you know and stick to it.

You are definitely not being unreasonable. I think if anyone complains or expects to hold a newborn in the current circumstances then they are the ones being unreasonable!

Definitely stand your ground and only let people see baby/hold your baby if you feel 100% happy with the situation.

If I was you I would say to you parents/in laws now that unless they can wear masks as they should/ social distance etc for the next few weeks then they cannot hold your baby until you decide you are happy that the risk level has dropped. By telling them now then it won't come to a shock once baby is here! Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and the birth 🙂 x

Make them wear masks, and sanitize their hands. Should be okay. You have more chance of catching it in the hospital to be honest.