Let's talk about sex.....or not

[Advoca]

My partner of just over 3 years never talks about sex. It's only just dawned on me.
Our relationship is great in every other aspect & sex itself is really good, but if ever I mention sex during conversation he swerves it. He's affectionate, caring, kind etc & often buys me very sexy outfits to dress up in bed.

However I would like to talk about fantasies etc.
AIBU to think this is strange?

Not really. I've never had any inclination to talk to anyone about me fantasies, they're for me only. Thinking about it I've never really had lengthy conversations about sex, might talk about it a bit when it's happening/just happened. It's not everyone's thing.

I don't want to talk about sex. It intellectualises a physical/emotional reaction and kind of ruins it in the process.

Hey, it’s better than the other way around! All talk and no action...

He’s getting at least some of his fantasies played out by buying you outfits for sex. Presumably he isn’t interested in hearing about yours.

So, so often men prioritise their sexual wants/needs, even in an otherwise loving relationship. I get what you’re saying, OP.If he shuts down any mention of sex then you can’t ever ask for what you’d like.