To think they should have let me in?

[allinadaystwerk]

Had to bring my 95 year old to the hospital after a fall. They will not let me accompany her to see the dr. Any info they relay to her will be lost as she is a tad deaf forgetful. They will also not get the full story. Shes been in there 30 mins now and I am worried sick outside. Aibu to feel like they should have let me go in with her? I protested and tried to explain but they would not budge

That does seem odd. I went to the hospital recently and I saw elderly people with a younger career so I'm not sure why they are saying no. How long will you have to wait?

@allinadaystwerk such an awful situation to be in, hope she is ok, and ideally it would have been best for you to go in so I see your point of view.

However look at it this way, they are trying to protect other people just like her. Someone else’s 95 year old?? (Didn’t say what relation she is) could be in there too, and they won’t want them to get ill if you are a potential Covid carrier.

It’s awful but it’s the times.

Couldn’t accompany my 82 year old father when he had a stroke 10 days ago.

Hope your Granny gets better and you don’t have to take her to hospital again.

Been here 4 hours in total

What if you were a paid carer whose job was to be with a client at all times, especially if they had dementia? Surely they would let you in then. Not sure why 1 person cant accompany an older person now the rules have relaxed a bit with social contact

I'm sorry as that's an awful situation but unfortunately the hospitals have to stick to their current Covid-19 policies. I've had 2 elderly relatives recently have to go into hospital (different hospitals) and in both situations their adult child was not able to accompany them, even though they struggle to understand things.

Hospitals have to have a blanket policy for all, they can't have one rule for one person and another for someone else.

My aunt but very close. She just seems so bewildered 😔

@allinadaystwerk

My aunt but very close. She just seems so bewildered 😔

@allinadaystwerk 🙁 sorry OP hope she’s ok, hopefully they find a way to communicate with you. It’s so hard when all you want to do is support and comfort them.

My dad had to be on his own after a stroke then 27 days as an inpatient as no visitors allowed. Sadly it's the way things are.

Utter batshittery.

So sorry op. What an unnecessary situation to put her and you in. Where the heck is common sense?

Could you write down some basic information for the nurses/doctors that might be helpful?
Sorry you are having to wait outside.

Could you not have been on speakerphone for the appointment?

Could you try ringing the department to tell them? And ask about what's going on of course.
This happened to me too - DM fell three weeks ago. The ambulance personnel were clear there was no point following them to the hospital as even they aren't allowed past the door.

We are out now no broken bones. Thanks for the hand hold. She was a star and the dr gave me an update.

Of course they won't let you in. We're in the middle
Of a pandemic. I work on a ward and the amount of people
I have to turn away daily as visitors is heartbreaking but unfortunately necessary

I'm sorry they wouldn't let you in. My mum has just had a terminal diagnosis in hospital and is seriously ill and in pain and we are not allowed in to see her at all. I feel your pain.
When I was dropping off fresh things for her at the desk yesterday there was a woman giving the poor guy on the desk some serious abuse because he wouldn't let her in to see someone. Security was called.
Everyone thinks they are the special case that should be allowed in. But if they allowed anyone, everyone would be in.

It's so shit

The worrying thing is that it was common practice pre covid to have to accompany relatives to ensure their personal care and basic needs were met. One can only hope there is adequate nursing and ancillary care taking place in this new world and that hospital personnel are taking the time to feed those who can't do it themselves.

@HammerToFall

Of course they won't let you in. We're in the middle Of a pandemic. I work on a ward and the amount of people I have to turn away daily as visitors is heartbreaking but unfortunately necessary

She’s 95 and forgetful therefore needs someone with her, would a child not be allowed someone with them, no. Common sense is needed surely.

So sorry op. What an unnecessary situation to put her and you in. Where the heck is common sense?

But it is common sense. They can't allow in extra, healthy, people when they could be spreading covid, especially if it's a geriatric ward.

Having someone to accompany or visit a patient is not essential, whereas bringing in covid is potentially deadly, and not only to the person you're accompanying or visiting. So yes, it's entirely sensible to only allow people who are actually ill or injured to enter the hospital.

It’s bonkers .
No logic at all.

Really feel for you OP. It’s a shit time for everyone!

My mum went into hospital during lockdown after a fall in the family home and had early signs of dementia (so unable to answer a lot of the questions she was being asked).

Due to COVID19, family members were not allowed to visit her and her health deteriorated rapidly over 3 weeks due to a plethora of underlying conditions.

She passed away 2 weeks ago after contracting pneumonia and although the healthcare professionals and doctors were amazing at keeping us updated & engaged - it felt like an absolute kick in the stomach.

Hope she is ok OP - keep strong.

I find this all so scary. My DS is very autistic, can't communicate verbally and has significant learning disabilities. I would hope if he was taken ill they would see sense and let me in with him, but who knows, there seem to be so many people who think there should be no exceptions. I honestly can't imagine how awful it would be, he would panic and not understand at all and it would be very difficult for all concerned, including hospital staff. I think I would have heart failure at being separated from him.