Resign as a teacher now...

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I have a DD3, due to visa my DH can’t join us in UK (has been like this since 2019). I’m starting a new job Sept. I can’t face being alone for another year. AIBU to revoke my contract now knowing I’ll be in breach of contract and join DH?

Where is dh? Can he support you both? Do you need money? Really need a bit more background info.

But if you are looking for him to come to the uk, wont you need to show you can support him for Visa purposes?

You’ll be leaving them in the lurch, but you won’t be the first person ever to break a contract in the summer holidays. As you are leaving the country (and not planning on returning?) there’s not a lot they can do.

Let them know as soon as possible though.

@Waveysnail it’s tight money wise but we could stay here just about. DH would be able to support us and I could work where he is. Visa wise with the backlog we’ve been told it would be a minimum of nine months from application.
@noblegiraffe I know and I feel bloody awful for it. I’m so torn as I know they’d be stuck and have to pay for a supply before finding someone. I don’t have family or friends around who could help, I’ve been trying to think of alternatives but it seems so bleak.

I’d have to have a very compelling reason to have my child in a different country than her father for long periods of time.

Was he in the UK before 2019 and his visa ran out or did you meet abroad? I'm rather confused by the whens and hows of this. If it's only 9 months backlog and he, I assume, applied in 2019 then there can't be much more time to wait? Is dd his?

If the long term plan is to be in the UK and there's only months until his application is processed, won't you be shooting yourself in the foot to not having a job or home in the UK? You can visit him for half terms and Christmas.

Surely it isn't the choice between, stay alone a whole year or leave right now though? Isn't it normally one team's notice you need to give? Could you not give notice now and leave at the end of term and then join DH? Sorry for all the many questions!

Do what is best for you, OP. Things happen. Life happens. Your only concern is word of mouth in teaching can be problematic - there is a lot of overlap between schools with teachers moving about, always someone who knows someone who previously worked with you. If you intend to return to the same area at some point in the future, there is a small chance your name will be remembered by the wrong person for the wrong reasons. But I think that would be unlucky and not worth putting your life on hold for.

Oh just do it. Far worse has happened than that.

@Thingsdogetbetter we were saving for him to come here with the aim of applying in Jan/Feb. DD is his. He went into lockdown there and he couldn’t leave. The visa centres still aren’t open and with the backlog would be nine months plus from when we apply. He can’t leave still and we can’t get there without a two week quarantine.
@BranchAndPoppy it’s a term yes but there aren’t jobs really available in the year, if I went now there would be.
@Enoughnowstop You’re right there, if we did get back here I suspect we’d have to relocate, no ties so isn’t there end of the world.

Ah right, so you're planning to work where he is, but you need to go now to get a job there? Yeah, I'd probably break the contract for that.

But I worked in private sector nearly my entire career and learned that employers shoe zero loyalty to their employees when it comes down to it, so, within reason, I wouldn't turn my life upside down to make things better for them financially. Appreciate this is a little different as it's public sector, but I definitely think worse things have happened.

If you’re going to resign do it now. There’s time for the school to appoint before September. It’s not ideal but life happens....(I’m a headteacher btw).

I’d rather have you be honest and decisive now than have your resignation in September.

@SheilaHammond thank you, it’s reassuring to know there would be enough time to appoint a replacement. It’s the last thing I ever want to do letting the school down, it weighs heavily but I feel my DD and DH should be together especially when so young.