To have been a bit rude to the patronising man?

[Natureotter]

Im a delivery driver for a big company.
Today I parked up in a street, which is difficult as it’s hard to find somewhere in the street that doesn’t block people’s drives...anyway I drove into the street and parked on the left, no dropped curve or anything and plenty room for people to move around me etc. In fact I know all the other drivers park there too.
So I was at my van sorting through stuff and this bloke says sweetheart, I think your safer parking down a bit. I looked behind me and was astounded he thought there was a problem. A bus could get round me!

I said nah I’m good thanks. He looked really put out I didn’t pander to his expectations. It had nothing to do with him and it was safe, not in his opinion but as a professional driver I was confident of my parking decisions.
He walked away red faced.
I have a feeling he wouldn’t have said that to a bloke, but because I’m young and a bit girly looking for a delivery driver he took it upon himself to patronise me. Why can’t people mind their own business?

I have had two men criticise me for reversing without paying attention. In both cases I had performed the manoeuvre decisively and safely using the rear camera in my car.
It was before rear cameras became common but I bet neither of the assholes would have dared say a word to a man.

I also have had a substantial number of men offer to assist me pour my beer into my glass as I pour it into the middle from a slight height to obtain the maximum head on it. I love the head on my beer and would drink the whole thing as foam if I could. Strangely I never see men being taught how to pour a pint by random strangers. Patronising bastards.

World is full of them. I used to drive for a substantial amount of my job in my mid twenties ( back in the 1990s). I could write a book.

Non event. Not sure why you're even still thinking about it!

I think it’s sadder that women are programmed to think that politely refusing to take a man’s unsolicited advice is ‘rude.’

:(

@Downunderduchess

Sounds like you handled it well. Good on you for learning to stand up for yourself.

this.

YABU because you have written about a parking situation WITHOUT A DIAGRAM!!!

I was just thinking.... what would men do if women started correcting them all the time in public? grin

They would NOT like it. They would ask what you problem was, and of course they are the kings of parking so would not take kindly to a woman...A Woman! suggesting they park elsewhere!

Or give any other advice. That is if they listen in the first place and don't wait for a male to have the same idea!

You weren't at all rude. That was the politest possible way of declining his suggestion.

You would have been well within your rights if you had been a bit rude, but you weren't.

I don’t think you were rude. I wouldn’t give this any more headspace tbh.

I've had this before! 'Advice' from random men who you just know wouldn't give it to another man. YANBU. They always look so put out when you don't act on it or don't swell their egos with gratitude.

@StillCoughingandLaughing

This is such a non-event. I’m struggling to see why you would even type this.

I struggle to see why you would post at all if this is all you have to say.

If that's the full story, then YABU for thinking you were rude. I don't understand why he walked away red-faced, you were perfectly polite.

YWBU for not saying , " Nah I'm good thanks babycakes".