To wish that mil would put her *pleated* *cleavage* away!! Her tits are not good in a pushy uppy bra!

[PellMell]

Why oh why?
And what the fuck is she wearing a little black lace tie up thingy around her neck for for? Its not the wrinkles around the neck she should be concerned about.
Dh didn't know whether to laugh or cry. She has just spent the last two weeks with us on holiday in ireland.

I sympathise with anyone for spending 2 weeks on hils with MIl.

That it becomes an excuse to have a go at a woman for your belief that she should keep her 'eeeeuw' body out of sight of your apparantly superior one is pretty nasty.

Mysoginy doesn't just come from men, it seems.

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when I was in the scbu with ds last year my MIL comes in for a visit. She leans over the cot and from my weary-just-given-birth-and-have-sick-baby bed I catch an eyeful of her thong. She's 66. Bless

My best mates 80 year old mother looked wondcerful recently. She was demure, glttery and had a cleavge.

Fabulous fabulous

I think it is narrow minded and nasty to bitch about someones body in this way.

Get a grip

Oooh no. There's nothing worse than mutton dressed as lamb.

We are all going to be old some day (hopefully)

oh god , I have a mil like this. she has a very small 'lifeless' chest which we all have to see reguarly bevcause she doesnt wear a bra with small tops.eeuugghhh. my poor dh doesnt know wher to look. Also she wears her stilettos on my £3000 floor!!!!arrgghhh!!!

Yep, we're all going to be old and wear purple! But nobody will be seeing my crepey cleavage. I hope to maintain a spot of dignity.

i tell you what i wont be hanging my cleavage out at that age!!! i am 22 and already cover myself up- i am pretty well endowed and cant wear anything without them poking out, so now i'm a mummy its polo necks all year round for me, or round neck tee's!!!haha!! i think i'm very lucky though, my MIL is lovely, dresses nicely and is fantastic.....its my own mother that insists on dressing in the same kind of clothes as my 17 and 19yr old sisters!!!.....i always tell her she shouldn't wear thing but she never listens.....it gets to a point though when she's wearing a see-through top with no bra in front of my DH and the poor thing doesn't know where to look!! aww- i feel bad telling a bunch of strangers about my mum's dress sence!! but i suppose i tell her all the time anyway- so its nothing new for her!!!

My best mates mum looked wonderful. She was classy, she was not mutton dressed as lammb.

actually this pisses me off so much -

Why does it piss you off so much Beetroot? Some people look daft trying to look younger, some people look great. People trying to be something they're not i.e. sexy glamour puss incites p*ss taking. Never mind.

Perhaps I have a SOH failure too but to carp on about somebody by picking on their physical appearance is just too shallow although perhaps Pellmell has some valid grievances (re not interacting with her family / ignoring grandchildren etc)

i don't actually think it is to do with people 'trying to look younger than their age' My 80 year best mates MUm certainly isn't. She dressed in a very chic manner, but had a cleavage adn I htought it looked fab -

I think, once you get into 40's you realise that wearing polo necks and crimpolene trousers is not for the old it is for SOME old people. Others don't care what the youngsters think of them - they are enjoying themselves to much.

I shall wear exactly what I want when I am 80!

I,m sorry my post has pissed you off beetroot.
I have a very disabled child who is now eighteen whose appearance has been commented on and I really should know better.
It doesn't excuse me for being so bitchy but I can only say that after 10 years of knowing her and obviously dh has been aware of this problem a lot longer, it has become a sore point.
When all conversations lead to chat about clothes, fashion, makeup, and things you generally expect from a teenager or twenty something it becomes tiresome. I want to scream....."but don't you see anything else beautiful in the world"..."what about that picture your grandchild just gave you that you threw out with the egg box"
Dh says "don't bother, she's not interested!"

Commenting on her boobs was bitchy and I take that back but still trying to draw attention to herself by trying to look sexy in a pushup bra with loads of very empty boob skin on show was a mistake on her part and at some time surely it might stop.

My body is not better than hers and I have never felt that. She is attractive and I tell her that too.
Sorry for the ramble...had an anaesthetic today, feel a bit drunk.

I can apsolutely assure people that I am the furthest from shallow you can be and actually really do normally premote individuality, self esteem, anti bullying etc etc
I cannot tell you who I used to be on here as I am an old poster who changed her name and had all past ones deleted by my request. Some of you have told me in the past how much my posts have touched you and how you admire my strengths
so back to the point, reading back through my early posts on this thread I realise two things
The nasty comments are all about her using up all her time on herself. Apllying makeup, buying collagen filler on both journeys, buying clothes were all lengthy excersises- lots of time in the make up departments....
So I took the piss about her wearing it,them instead of telling the truth and explaining. I think thats what I do when I'm in a huff.
My second thought is that all of my dd's grandparents are either dis-interested or worse
This was compounded by spending two weeks instead of short visits and seeing no change,with mil.
I used to think that my in-laws couldn't except my dd from my first marriage and that her challenging behavior was their excuse to stay away.
Now she doesn't see her because dd has recently moved to a residential unit but we have a gorgeous little girl who tries so hard to get Nanna to notice her
Thats my problem!!!
I am angry and have turned it in to a "pick on mil for daring to show her boobs (and they were-by the way) campaign- instead of giving a minute of her time.

I was ready to take offense; I always wear fairly low tops, as the largeness of the norks encased in material and the (hereditary)double chin looks dreadful!!

It reminds me off my Nan whose chest always sailed into view before the rest of her, adorned with a row of pearls or large brooch, oh bless. No low necks for her though!!

Obviously, your OP was dealing with the 'last straw' for you; I understand how hurt you feel about the lack of interest in you and yours. She's probably never grown-up, has used her sexuality to get what she wants in life and can't cope as it fades.

It's hard when you become invisible; you just don't register on the radar any more. Actually I've realised I'm comfortable with that now. I had a group of friends who are much younger than me and always felt fine about socialising etc. Then one evening they tore another woman to shreds in my the same tone as your OP and I thought, I wonder what they say about me. I've gradually withdrawn from that group, which is sad but I don't want to be the object of anyone's pity or scorn.

And I've got really fab hair and I love my big boobs, so there!!